I know this example sounds awkward, but it’s obviously grammatically incorrect to say "me being here" in sentences like this one:

  1. He said me being here was wonderful.

That instance of me being should be my being because we need to use being as a gerund phrase so that it can be the subject of the verb was and so conform to the grammatical structure of Subject–Verb≠Complement.

But what about in this second example?

  1. If he had my doing (of) this from the beginning, we would have succeeded.

Because if you say it this way:

  1. If he had me do this from the beginning, we would have succeeded.

Now there seems to be a conflict of had and do because both are verbs. Can someone explain, please?

Here is the NY Times grammar example: the After Deadline blog posting of 2012-05-29:

Aurélie Filipetti, 38, a novelist and a legislator, was named culture minister. She had made public an account of being groped by Dominique Strauss-Kahn, the man whom many thought would be the Socialist candidate.

They say it should be who and not whom because the example here is that it's ultimately the verb being done by the subject that counts, not the "many thought" part (seems the verb gives priority to the subject rather than the other way around).

  • Please put the New York Times bit back where it was.
    – Ricky
    Jan 20, 2016 at 22:20
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    I think your example If he had me do this from the beginning [something different might have happened actually has less verbs than it should. Strictly speaking it should be If he would have had me do this... (normally contracted to If he'd have had me do it..., but I'm not ashamed to admit that if I were to "expand" it, I'd like as not come out with If he had have had me do it...). Jan 20, 2016 at 22:36
  • Check out this grammar site on the Third Conditional. It's the best way to express your "If he had me doing this" example. englishgrammarsecrets.com/thirdconditional/menu.php
    – Tim Ward
    Jan 20, 2016 at 22:38
  • LOL, that would change its meaning quite a bit, though. I was hoping I could just use the "theoretical" "if he had it done" scenario as in if I had horses do all the work instead of cows versus if I would have had horses to do all the work instead of cows. Not sure if that makes sense with the past perfect tense... which feels awkward because "do" is simple present... @TimWard Thanks for that, I'll check it out. Jan 20, 2016 at 22:42
  • @LucidityofPower, no, the Third Conditional would express your statement this way: If he had had me do this... In information language, you'll hear people simply contract the noun and verb: If he'd had me do this... Now, you could also easily use the gerund form, doing, but that would only logically work if you are currently doing it.
    – Tim Ward
    Jan 20, 2016 at 22:50

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Those are three different problems.

  1. "He had me do this” vs “He had my doing this”

The former is correct. The latter is nonsensical.

  1. He said me being here was wonderful.

Yes, logically, it should be my, but no one ever says it like that. It's always me in this case. Go figure.

  1. She had made public an account of being groped by Dominique Strauss-Kahn, the man whom many thought would be the Socialist candidate.

You're quite correct here. It should be who, since this is the nominative case. Some people who don't bother much about cases, though, reckon that "whom" sounds more sophisticated. That's the only explanation I can think of, and should anyone have a better one, I defy them to prove it.


FumbleFingers' example, but the teacher obviously had my cheating in mind has nothing at all to do with any of this. My terminology is sketchy, but ...

My teacher wouldn't have me cheating at the exam means he'd kick my ass if he caught me in the act of cheating.

My teacher had a problem with my cheating means he knew I was a cheat in general and had a problem with it.

He had me do this means his purpose (which he achieved) was to coax, force, or trick me (not force my, which would be nonsensical) into doing "this."

MORE ON THIS (from the OP's puzzled comment):

If the teacher had my cheating on the exam, she'd fail me. This works, right?

No, it doesn't.

One: To have someone [the accusative case] do something means to encourage, require, order, or force them to do it. It wouldn't make sense for the teacher to ask you to cheat and then fail you. I mean, shit happens; but generally teachers fail students because said students do something the teacher didn't ask them to do.

Two: "She had my cheating" doesn't make any sense unless it's the title of a book. As in "The teacher had My Teaching, by Umberto Eco, in her hands."

If he had my doing the work: This is wrong, and (attention! important information!) it is NOT related in any way to phrases like "Me being there brightened up the morons' lives." Nothing at all. Different rules, completely.

You can have me, or Linda, or John, do all the work for you.

You cannot, I emphasize, cannot, have my, Linda's, or John's, do all the work for you. You can't have Linda's do all the work for you. You can only have Linda do all the work for you.

Please tell me if you still have a problem understanding this. We'll post a whole new question together and have another spirited crack at the son of a bitch.

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    It might be a bit convoluted, but I can't really see anything wrong with, say, I got the cane for passing notes under the desk in last year's exams. I thought that was all forgotten by this year's exams, but the teacher obviously had my cheating in mind, because he made me sit at a desk well away from all the other pupils. I think there has to be something along the lines of in mind there though. Jan 20, 2016 at 22:32
  • @FumbleFingers: That's an entirely different issue. And do please put the NYTimes bit back in. You made the edit when I had already incorporated it in my answer.
    – Ricky
    Jan 20, 2016 at 22:33
  • Can you please explain why "He had me do this” is right and "He had my doing this" is wrong, yet it works in the example FumbleFingers gave? Why is "me do this" grammatically correct in this particular sentence? Please help. Jan 20, 2016 at 22:34
  • @LucidityofPower: Okay, I'm going to add this to the answer. Hang on.
    – Ricky
    Jan 20, 2016 at 22:38
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    @LucidityofPower Grammatically, yes, it's correct strictu sensu. But it means “She was in possession of the cheating that belonged to me”, i.e., it is completely parallel to “She had my coat”. If the intention is for it to mean “She made me cheat”, then it is not grammatically correct. Jan 21, 2016 at 2:25

From Practical English Usage:

Let, make, see, hear, feel, watch, notice, have, and sometimes know and help are followed by object + infinitive without to.

So, 'I had you do' is correct. 'Had you to do', sounds wrong to me. 'Had you doing' doesn't really sound that bad, although I think it would be incorrect.

I have checked in youglish and 'have me doing' has 500ish videos with it, whereas have me do has 5500. Many were used in the same sense, so I guess it is possible although strange.

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