Which is correct? "Neither them nor us went to the show." or "Neither they nor we went to the show."
I think the second because Neither is the subject and so it should be in the nominative.
The correct answer is
"Neither they nor we went to the show." (Neither modifies the subjects; if the subjects were not named, it would stand in for the subjects, but in your case, the subjects are named, and neither/nor both require subjects, therefore cannot be the subjects of the verb went.)
They and we are compound subjects of the sentence, therefore are in the nominative case; they and we are doing the action of the verb.
Them and us are in the accusative case - recipients of the action of the verb, or objects of a preposition:
We hit them. (direct object of the verb) The agreement was between them and us. (objects of the preposition 'between')
The Nominative (or subjective) is the form nouns take in the dictionary. I (accusative: me), we (accusative: us), he (accusative: him), she (accusative: her), they (accusative: them) and who (accusative: whom).
1) Why are we using "neither/nor" while it is more appropriate to use "not either/nor" and "neither/or?" 2) "They" versus "Them" would be contextual, as in subject versus object, respectively. (you noted that) What's worth noting, too, is when we use these terms in a sentence containing an elliptical clause.
"Neither" means "not either." No further negatives are warranted. "I do not want either bacon or eggs." Same as, "I want neither bacon or eggs." Why introduce a negative "nor"?
"I'm not going to the game." "Neither am I."
Am I trying to eliminate "nor" from the language? You betcha!