It was my understanding that, in traditional Western weddings, if the bride were to become unavailable on the day of her wedding then the groom was expected to wed the maid of honor or the next available bridesmaid, thus precluding married women from serving as bridesmaids.

Times have changed and the term matron of honor seems fairly commonplace but its logical counterpart, bridesmatron, much less so. What, then, is the term for a married bridesmaid?

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    I think you have some terms mixed up. Bridesmaid is unmarried, whereas bridesmatron would be the married equivalent. Maid of honor is the head bridesmaid, and a "married maid of honor" would be matron of honor. The counterpart of Matron of honor (married) would be maid of honor (unmarried). More interestingly, my niece recently had a brother stand up with her as a bridesman.
    – Spare Oom
    Aug 20, 2011 at 1:18
  • @Spare Oom - Yes! I have also heard the term man of honor.
    – Kevin L.
    Aug 20, 2011 at 1:29
  • @SpareOom Bridematron? Really? That sounds silly. The word that is. There's no prescription about the marital status of bridesmaids.
    – Mitch
    Jul 24, 2018 at 20:07
  • @Mitch The "maid" part implies unmarried. See the literary or archaic definition of maid here: dictionary.com/browse/maid?s=t See also en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bridesmaid. italic Traditionally, bridesmaids were chosen from unwed young women of marriageable age._italic_.
    – Spare Oom
    Aug 11, 2018 at 0:29

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In Western tradition, there are several positions that a woman can take in the party of the bride: she can be a bridesmaid which means she is any of the attendants, a maid of honor if she is the principal unmarried bridesmaid with more duties, or matron of honor if she is the principal bridesmaid who is married. A maid (or matron) of honor is different from a bridesmaid:

In North America, a wedding party might include several bridesmaids, but the maid of honor is the title and position held by the bride's chief attendant, typically her closest friend or sister.

Times certainly have changed, and the tradition of bridesmaids needing to be unmarried no longer holds. This Q&A on The Knot said:

The idea that a bride needs to be surrounded by unmarried women is ancient history, and unless all your closest friends do happen to be unwed, it might as well stay that way. There's no reason you can't ask a married friend to be a maid. You can refer to her as a bridesmaid in your programs, and everywhere else too -- no need for a bridesmatron title. Think of it this way: Being a bridesmaid is more like being a "Ms." than a "Miss."

The definition of bridesmaid is:

a woman who is an attendant of a bride

By definition, a bridesmaid does not have to be unmarried. Further, in common practice, a bridesmaid need not be unmarried.

  • I think that that quote is more intended to advocate inclusion of married friends into a bride's wedding party, and that "bridesmaid" as a marital-status-neutral term is a good idea. But it doesn't seem to really address the accuracy of the term. While I wholeheartedly agree with that quote, it doesn't satisfy my curiosity.
    – Kevin L.
    Aug 20, 2011 at 1:20
  • @Kevin: Searching Google for "married bridesmaid" only yields "bridesmaid". The source I quoted advocates inclusion, but it also debunks the tradition that a bridesmaid is unmarried.
    – user10893
    Aug 20, 2011 at 1:22

After simchona clarified what exactly was the problem, I looked it up, in Bride's forum, and someone asked a similar question:

Is there a special name for a bridesmaid that is married? I am having my older married sister as my Matron of Honor and my unmarried younger sister as my Maid of honor. One of the bridesmaids is married ... can I still call her a bridesmaid in the program?

Three of the answers all agreed on one thing:

a married bridesmaid is still a bridesmaid-

the only time it changes is when the maid of honor is married- then it becomes matron of honor.


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