Is "I'm screwed" a rude expression, or can it be used when someone tries to say they made a mistake?
I overheard it from someone who seemed to have failed at his task.
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6I think most people who say that don't mean for it to be rude or vulgar, but, when you think about the underlying meaning of the phrase, it might be better to go with "I'm in trouble" in a more professional setting.– J.R.Commented Sep 7, 2012 at 9:13
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1I would consider it to be moderately rude. That is, it's fine to say to your friends, if that's the type of friendship you have, but I would never say it to my superiors at work, my lecturers or my family.– NieszkaCommented Sep 7, 2012 at 9:32
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3"I'm screwed" isn't simply used when someone has made a mistake. I take it to mean more, "I'm in trouble" with little hope of it being resolved. The person who failed at their task might get in trouble because of it. They are screwed.– MrWhiteCommented Sep 7, 2012 at 10:04
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1@w3d: Absolutely. You might have done everything right, but still be screwed because something went wrong that you had no control over. Or maybe you did everything wrong, but that's no problem because you can pin the blame on someone else.– FumbleFingersCommented Sep 7, 2012 at 11:15
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Used informally, it's not rude; in formal use, it is.– KrisCommented Sep 7, 2012 at 12:48
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It's something you wouldn't say to your grandmother, perhaps, but it is a very common euphemism people use to avoid saying something stronger. It's used in everything from pop songs to commentaries by TV talk show hosts.
Seriously, in most walks of society screwed is considered merely informal these days, not rude.
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2It's also been used publicly by presidents, but I must admit I thought that was rather odd. In the UK we don't even require our leaders to be devout Christians, but I certainly wouldn't expect them to use that kind of language. Commented Sep 7, 2012 at 12:13
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6It is in a similar notion to "this sucks". The real meaning is extremely vulgar however in a certain context it is more acceptable. "To screw" is extremely vulgar compared to "I'm screwed". Commented Oct 26, 2014 at 23:13
Robusto's response addresses the rudeness aspect of your question.
With regard to the second part, whether I'm screwed is "used when someone tries to say they made a mistake": I think you're confusing I'm screwed (which as the comments tell you means approximately "Aw, jeez, I'm in trouble") with I screwed up, which does mean "I've made a mistake".
Another version of screwed up, made famous in The Right Stuff, is screwed the pooch; this is somewhat intensive, but the conventional intensifier is royal: "I screwed up royally."
Both expressions (and the "stronger" version to which Robusto alludes) may be used in second or third person as well as first, in either the singular or plural, and in any tense, aspect or mood.
Screw up is also frequently used adjectivally ("That's a really screwed-up piece of design") and nominally ("I'm getting tired of Carol's screw-ups"). The nominal version of screw in this sense is more often the gerund screwing than the infinitive screw (which tends to be reserved for the sexual sense); I cannot recall encountering an adjectival use.
answered Sep 7, 2012 at 13:02
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1+1 but the speaker may be referring to the fallout from his mistake, in which case I'm screwed may be apt.– bibCommented Sep 7, 2012 at 14:49
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@bib Quite so; but that's not the same thing as acknowledging the mistake as his. Commented Sep 7, 2012 at 15:05
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@StoneyB The OP may have simply mistakenly analysed the overheard remark, so explaining the more likely meaning of "I'm screwed" would at least account for the case in which they didn't mishear the words. Commented Sep 8, 2012 at 1:10
I do believe that when you are saying "I'm screwed" or "He really screwed me" you are using a euphemism which has its roots in the sex act, which is sometimes referred to as "screwing". In this case, it is a less-vulgar version of saying "I'm fucked" or "He really fucked me". It is using the sex act as a metaphor for domination, which apparently is NEVER acceptable in polite company. Wiktionary says:
The modern sense of screwed originates in the mid-1600's with a sense of "to screw" as a means of "exerting pressure or coercion", probably in reference to instruments of torture (e.g. thumbscrews).[1] It quickly gained a wider general sense of "in a bind; in unfortunate inescapable circumstances" When the verb "to screw" gained a sexual connotation in the early 1700's,[2] it joined the long-lasting association of sexual imagery as a metaphor for domination, leading to screwed gaining synonyms like fucked and shagged. On a more general note, this is a prime example of the frequent tendency for verb participles to evolve into adjectives.
As for the term "screw the pooch", here's a quote from Jacob May, the DJ who first coined the term back in the '50s recounting how that came about:
John Rawlings was one of two roommates who were architecture students. In the spring of 1950 it was time for his project to complete the semester. He procrastinated. Apparently all architecture students do. He was going to be late even starting his charrette. So to be helpful I said the following: JACK: You're late, John, you're fouling up. You are fucking the dog. JOHN: Really, you are so vulgar and coarse, I just don't want to hear it. JACK: You're still late. Is this better? You are screwing the pooch. JOHN: (shrill laughter)
So FtD and its nicer version, "screw the pooch" mean to screw up EXTREMELY BADLY, somewhat how FUBAR means something ""f'd" up beyond all reason" Worse than we can describe in words. So bad that it would be as big a screw up as having intercourse with a dog. Any reference to the sex act at ALL traditionally is considered vulgarity, ESPECIALLY with animals, I would think.
To answer you, saying "I'm screwed" technically IS vulgar but has become more accepted in current society. However, you would not use the term "I'm screwed" to say that you made a mistake; rather you would say that you "screwed-up". You might actually be "screwed" because of your "screw-up", meaning you might find yourself "beset with unfortunate circumstances that seem difficult or impossible to overcome or in imminent danger" due to whatever you did that left something "Broken, damaged, inoperative or having only partial functioning". Hope this helps
