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I think ‘resignation’ suits the scenario. If someone who’s in the habit of making lame jokes makes one, their friends would shake their heads and resign to the fact that they’ll have to bear those jokes. They can’t change what’s happening.
Such people could be called ‘favoured’, as they are given an advantage which is unfair to others. ‘Work-shy’ captures their disinclination to work. Waiting for someone to share a term that covers both attributes.
To convey that you’re wishing for someone’s safety and sanity given the tough time we all are having, but are not particularly interested in the details, you could say, “I hope you’re holding up in the current situation.” This creates the understanding that neither you nor the recipient is actually ‘well’ in this difficult time, but you still wish for their fortitude.