What term to use to refer to a late husband's last name after marrying again and taking the new husband's name?

Question

When I married my first husband I took his name and used the term "nee" to quickly refer to my birth name. After my first husband died, I remarried and took my new husband's last name. Now I want to know what term to use to refer to my first husband's last name, similar to how I would have used the term "nee" before. I suppose I could say "previous surname" but was hoping there was a shorter way to express this.

As an example, in letter I used to sign my name "Elaine Hornung" and follow it with "nee Elaine Rae" for instances where it might be important for the receiver of the letter to know my birth name. Now I want to sign my name and follow it with the birth name and my previous married name, Wintonyk. The term for that use is what I am looking for.

Answer 1

You might say

Elaine Hornung (formerly Wintonyk; née Rae).

Or, in the case of my mother,

Mrs Monica Mann (also known as Dr Zealley); formerly Lloyd, née Zealley

Answer 2

Hopefully an etiquette expert will write a definitive answer here. But in the meantime, I'll give you a couple of ideas. Let's say you used to be Jane Smith, and now you married Mr. López.

Jane (Smith) López

Jane Smith López

Jane López (formerly Jane Smith)

Jane López (widow of Smith) - this one is inspired by the way one does this in Spanish

Jane Smith, now Jane López

Also, some people hyphenate.

Answer 3

I've seen the first approach in Dan's answer used and thought it simple, and to the point.

In my family that has been done by a couple women keeping the names active for children from each marriage. Never really considered the second need he shows, that of keeping a woman's professional persona intact, but that seems like it could be a bigger thing over coming years.

Commenting on Dan's answer, the poster looks for a shorter word. One feels the use of née sets up a small demand for a French word so perhaps déjà. As in Abby (déjà Collins, déjà Durham, déjà Eddings, née Brown) Franklin.

(Admittedly though, all I know about French is how to click it for the output language in Google Translate, so perhaps déjà is hopelessly inappropriate.)

Of course, nowadays, women facing the question of a connected persona in, say, FaceBook, seem to simply use their birth names with at most a following current last name. So maybe that will be considered "the" way for the future.