I'm looking for a word or a phrase that means taking offense but not actually showing it.


Mary was selfless, affectionate and ______ towards criticism/offense.

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    I don't think there will be a dedicated English adjective that conveys both "offended" and "outwardly unmoved". Commented Oct 28, 2020 at 19:07
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    Neither do I. "...and a stony martyr to criticism." Or a stony-faced martyr... Commented Oct 28, 2020 at 19:11
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    Stoical can mean Enduring pain and hardship without showing one's feelings or complaining. Commented Oct 28, 2020 at 20:24
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    Inspired by fumbleFingers: Mary was selfless, affectionate and outwardly impervious towards criticism/offense.
    – Greybeard
    Commented Oct 30, 2020 at 17:39

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Difficult. I might use chary or leery in some contexts, but not all, so this can only be a partial answer.

chary = discreetly cautious: such as

a: hesitant and vigilant about dangers and risks ”a government chary of getting involved in foreign entanglements”

b: slow to grant, accept, or expend ”a person very chary of compliments”

Merriam Webster

leery = if you are leery of someone, you do not trust them

Macmillan dictionary

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