What is the term for (a person who responds/the act of responding) to a request as though it were a much more demanding/unreasonable request?
Andrew (at home) texts, "I'd like to take the car to get an oil change sometime soon."
Barbara (driving) replies, "I'm driving Charlie to the ER with a broken ankle, but I can turn around right now and bring the car to you. I'm 30 minutes away from the house."
The feeling Barbara is trying to evoke is that she's a long-suffering person doing her best to satisfy Andrew's whims, no matter the cost. Or like the Jewish mother/lightbulb joke whose punchline is "Go, have a good time, I'll just sit here in the dark, alone." Except that Barbara's behavior is more intended to suggest that Andrew is both demanding and capricious, when he is neither.
I'm looking for a word or phrase that describes either Barbara or her behavior. "Hyperbole" isn't quite right, nor is "melodrama" (although it's closer)...
"Barbara's ________ makes me not want to talk to her at all."