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Alternative to "queer the deal"?
It reminds me of the usage of jinx, an old word which (at least in my experience) has recently become much more popular amongst young people:
to foredoom to failure or misfortune : bring bad luck ...
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Alternative to "queer the deal"?
Queering the deal means to have some (usually last minute) new condition or circumstance to contend with, which threatens the delicate balance of (a perhaps not altogether above-board) negotiated ...
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Alternative to "queer the deal"?
Don't sour the deal
One of the definitions at oxforddictionaries.com is:
(verb) Make or become unpleasant, acrimonious, or difficult.
[with object] ‘a dispute soured relations between the two ...
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Is the term "sexual preference" generally considered offensive now, and has it always been?
tl;dr– No, "sexual preference" isn't offensive. Historically, there was a public discourse over if non-heterosexual people chose to be non-heterosexual, so a pro-LGBT group recommended ...
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Is the term "sexual preference" generally considered offensive now, and has it always been?
The term "sexual preference" has been considered offensive before the use by Barett.
The reason is that when attacking the humanity of LGBT+ people, one argument by christian conservatives ...
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Alternative to "queer the deal"?
It is related to the panoply of expressions for which queer is used, comprising various markers - often derogatory, some of them such as the association with homosexuality now considered offensive. ...
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Alternative to "queer the deal"?
The answer by Glorfindel identifies "jinx" as a very good option, which I agree with for the "superstition" meaning; it seems to substitute well in the form "jinx it", such as "I don't want to jinx it"...
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What is a trans step-parent called?
The term stepmother is appropriate here. After all, it was Caitlyn's decision to transition to a woman*, and she appears to have adopted all the feminine terminology (for example, the pronoun "...
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I am a pansexual trans/gender-fluid person
The other answers are well-taken. To attempt a tl;dr:
Q1. What is the difference between a bisexual and a pansexual?
The people? Probably nothing. But the difference between the terms 'bisexual' ...
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What does "are nines" mean in this context?
It's common to rate people's qualities (beauty, wealth, personality, etc.) on a 10 point scale, with 10 being perfection and 0 or 1 being least desirable.
A "nine" is someone who is almost ...
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I am a pansexual trans/gender-fluid person
Q2. Why is there no agreement in the LGTBQ community for a single, simple term to express this gender and sexual preference?
A2. Because the LGTBQ is not a single speech community, that's why.
A ...
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Is the term "sexual preference" generally considered offensive now, and has it always been?
This answer is a follow-up to the already excellent answer by Nat. Its purpose is to clarify some aspects of the background of the issue, and to incorporate into an answer some of the insights that ...
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What does "queer" really mean these days?
This answer is based almost entirely on my own experience as a gay man in his late twenties in the UK, so sorry for the lack of references. You will see many other interpretations of the terms you've ...
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I am a pansexual trans/gender-fluid person
I want to specifically address the first question in a way that it hasn't been yet.
Q 1. What is the difference between a bisexual and a pansexual?
Bisexualism works only in a context where gender ...
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What's a word for ensuring certain categories play certain roles?
"Authentic" seems to be the word that best renders the expected meaning.
Here are a few examples of its use (bold mine) :
Authentic casting has been one of the most prominent issues facing ...
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What is a trans step-parent called?
Caitlyn would probably still go as stepmother no matter what, since her entire gender basically changed. In case you're confused with how to treat someone as a transgender, it's basically just ...
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Would it be a mistake to use the word "gay" in business or academical writings?
You ask:
I know that that was a joke, but is it still appropriate to say gay to refer that someone's happy or merry these days? Like in writings or something.
When words have multiple meanings, ...
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I am a pansexual trans/gender-fluid person
Regarding question 1:
I think it's a matter of carefully reading the definitions. Bisexual means to be attracted to both men and women. Pansexual means to be attracted to people regardless of sex or ...
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What are the origins of "gender confirmation" surgery?
The term most likely emerged as a research term. Here is the citation information and abstract for a 1988 article that describes sex reassignment as "gender confirmation":
Laub, D. R., et ...
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What is a gender-neutral word(s) for the word "maternity"?
The clear and obvious choice would be to call it pregnancy wear (worn while pregnant) or nursing clothes (worn to easily facilitate breastfeeding), as in these examples:
Maternity Clothes & ...
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I am a pansexual trans/gender-fluid person
Gender and sexuality are a spectrum. Many people do not identify solely as male or female or solely as straight, gay or bisexual. There's quite a bit of room in between and around these terms. This ...
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How to specify a lover's gender
You don't need any special vocabulary here. You can simply say:
A doctor’s daughter hides her female lover ...
This is perfectly fine and idiomatic and is probably the closest to the meaning of the ...
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Does the word "sympathizer" have a negative connotation?
Here's what I noticed: dictionaries don't mention any negative connotation, but I (as a native speaker) definitely feel that negative connotation is real.
The Oxford English Dictionary only has quotes ...
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Alternative to "queer the deal"?
It sounds like you want to use classical meaning of "queer" not because it is the most "Simple English correct" term, but to add color and dimension to your language. Any of a ...
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I am a pansexual trans/gender-fluid person
Bisexuality sensu lato (in the broad sense) means that one is sexually attracted to both males and females; it makes no distinction as to whether or not one is sexually attracted to persons who are ...
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Alternative to "queer the deal"?
I checked three dictionaries of British idioms, and none of them has an entry for "queer the deal." However two of them do have entries for "queer someone's pitch" which WS2 raises ...
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Is there a name for the category containing the words trans and cis?
Cis and trans, standing alone, used as adjectives, in relation to gender, are gender identity terms. They are shortenings of 'cisgender' and 'transgender'. Cis and trans are used as prefixes in ...
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Transgender but not transitioning?
You may be looking for the term non-op, as defined by the Gender Wiki as:
Non-op refers to those who do not wish to have gender confirmation surgery.
(Compare pre-op and post-op.)
However, non-op ...
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When talking to the child of a same sex couple, is it more standard to say "your parents" or "your fathers"/"your mothers"?
Linguistically, there is no normal here. Come back in 50 years.
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