Verb + infinitive/gerund is a chapter you find in any grammar of English. Unfortunately grammars only give lists and, of course, these lists can't be complete. If you are in doubt larger dictionary indicate whether a verb is followed by an infinitive or a gerund.

I think grammars should not only give lists, they should try to give an understanding of why a gerund is used and not an infinitive. Grammars are fixated on giving mechanical rules, but they should at least try to give an idea why things are this way.