Is there a word that conveys being absent from an appointment? The closest words I can think of are "ditch" and "dump," but both are rather informal. I want to say something along the lines of:

I went in the office at 3pm to meet Bob, but Bob ditched/dumped me.

I realize that it's perhaps more common to say, "Bob did not show up," but I want a stronger expression that connotes a willful act of neglect or carelessness.

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    I don't know how one can be wilfully careless, but "Bob didn't bother to show up" might successfully indicate disapproval. [The question in the title doesn't match what you appear to be asking, by the way]
    – Andrew Leach
    Nov 3, 2012 at 17:51
  • "Stood me up" seems a bit casual. I like "didn't bother to show up" -- Thanks!
    – SEL
    Nov 3, 2012 at 17:56
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    Just because someone did not make a schedule appointment does not mean that they “didn’t bother”. That requires extra knowledge of circumstance and intent — which is precisely why they are normally just called no-shows, since that does not presume to know such things. There are many possible reasons for someone missing an appointment, of which not bothering is merely one out of many.
    – tchrist
    Nov 3, 2012 at 18:20
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    By the way, this is the 90000th post recorded on English.SE
    – Daniel
    Nov 3, 2012 at 19:00

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Someone who missed an appointment is sometimes called a no-show.


If you want to condemn Bob because you know that he deliberately didn't show up for the scheduled appointment (Maybe he does that often), you could always say:

...but he blew me off.

He stood me up is what you'd say when someone makes a social date:

Stood Up (Ricky Nelson song)
(by Willis Dickerson and Erma Herrold)
Well, I've been waitin' ever since eight
Guess my baby's got another date
Stood up, broken-hearted, again

I'll bet she's out havin' a ball
Not even thinkin' of me at all
Stood up, broken-hearted, again

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