I've heard this phrase in some lyrics and even read it in some online articles.

don't know if he's coming or going

What's the meaning and correct usage of coming or going?


Here is one source I can find after a quick search: idioms.thefreedictionary.com

not know whether one is coming or going

Fig. to be very confused.

  • I'm so busy that I don't know if I'm coming or going.
  • You look as if you don't know whether you're coming or going.

That would fit with the songs:

The last example is telling:

You've got me on the road
Runnin' to and fro
Lookin' high and low
I don't know if I'm coming or going
Since I fell for you

I run up across the town
Chasing up and down
Having you around
I don't know if I'm coming or going
Since I fell for you

  • It's not any type of confusion. It's specifically confusion caused by stress and overwork (as demonstrated in the I'm so busy example). – TRiG Feb 8 '11 at 13:27

It's another term for calling someone two faced, or backstaber, or hypocrite

I can't tell if he's coming or going sometime

  • Can you identify a reference work that corroborates the meaning that you offer in your answer? The more familiar meaning, I believe, is the one given in the accepted answer to this question. – Sven Yargs Jun 23 '18 at 21:53

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