Is there any word for someone who doesn't accept others' favors? They have no reason for it, they just say no. Perhaps it's because they would feel insecure.


-Why does she always say no when I offer her snacks or drinks?

-You know she is a [word]

  • Do you mean people who are too polite to accept help?
    – alphabet
    Nov 20 at 5:52
  • @alphabet not necessarily, they just refuse it.
    – mtl
    Nov 20 at 6:16
  • It's fairly unusual for someone to have no reason behind their decision to refuse others' favors.
    – alphabet
    Nov 20 at 6:22
  • @alphabet maybe they feel unsecure? like being looked down upon or being indebted?
    – mtl
    Nov 20 at 6:27
  • So put that in your question.
    – alphabet
    Nov 20 at 6:28

1 Answer 1


The term that might describe someone who habitually rejects offers or favors from others is "refusenik."

In the context you're describing, "refusenik" can be applied to someone who consistently says no to offers or favors without any particular reason. It's important to note that while this term can fit, it might carry different connotations based on the listener's familiarity with its historical context.

Another term that could be used, though less specific, is "declinist," which simply means someone who frequently declines offers or invitations. However, this term is not commonly used and might not be immediately understood in casual conversation.

  • Thank you for your answer, but the examples I could find for these words were all in political or social context rather than being used in casual everyday conversations.
    – mtl
    Nov 20 at 9:01
  • Would you go for “fiercely independent”?
    – Xanne
    Nov 20 at 9:16
  • @Xanne Is it used in casual conversations? Can I use it like "they're stingy", or "they're narcissistic"?
    – mtl
    Nov 20 at 10:12
  • @mtl: "refusenik" is a made-up noun, from "to refuse" and the russian-style suffix "-nik", meaning "someone who is/does" whatever it is affixed to.
    – bakunin
    Nov 20 at 11:01
  • "Refusenik" is never used in this sense. The term only refers to people who refuse to follow the requests of others. It cannot be used for people who merely turn down offers. This answer was likely generated by ChatGPT rather than a native English speaker. I agree with Xanne that "fiercely independent" is the most idiomatic phrase for this.
    – anon
    Nov 20 at 12:39

Your Answer

By clicking “Post Your Answer”, you agree to our terms of service and acknowledge that you have read and understand our privacy policy and code of conduct.

Not the answer you're looking for? Browse other questions tagged or ask your own question.