I imagine that people will instinctively say, "There is no masculine or feminine speech in English," but I am not so sure.

For instance, the stereotype is that men speak roughly and women speak softly.

Then there is the usage of tag questions, fillers, and raising one's voice pitch so that the sentence sounds like a question.

Then again, it may be a question of assertiveness.

I hope someone knows what I am talking about!

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    Could you make this question more specific? Surely there are statistical differences between genders in many aspects of speech on average, but this will very a great deal between dialects and trying to enumerate all of them is far too broad of a question.
    – alphabet
    Commented Sep 23, 2023 at 22:13
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    Such a question isn't really on-topic for ELU. The rules of grammar are gender-agnostic.
    – TimR
    Commented Sep 23, 2023 at 22:23
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    @TimR There's nothing against sociolinguistic questions on EL&U. Not all interesting questions about English are about grammar. (but most are, of course) Commented Sep 23, 2023 at 23:59
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    I think it's a fascinating question but very broad, and perhaps better addressed in a PhD or, indeed, the entirety of an academic career. There is a lot of prior research into the ways in which men and women use language in different ways, perhaps start with your search engine. Commented Sep 24, 2023 at 9:39
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    @Greybeard They are not answered by commonly available references. The suggestions here are, to put it mildly, very silly. Commented Sep 24, 2023 at 14:09

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The website "EduBirdie" has an article entitled "Differences in Language Use by Men and Women" Comparative Analysis.

... women tend to use linguistic devices that focus more on the affective functions than men do. Women communicate in such ways to increase their solidarity while men tend to communicate in such ways which focus on the masculinity and power.

Stylistically men are less flexible than women. The language of men and women has a number of differences in some ways (Lakoff, 1975).

Men prefer to use falling intonation to show their level of confidence of what they are saying and at times power. Conversely, women prefer to use high pitched voice to signify their womanly behavior.

To express feelings,to state something, ..or to describe things, women mostly tend to use adjectives, such as: adorable, sweet, lovely etc. ...than men.

This essay is a broad-brush approach but there is a lot of research (e.g. Google Scholar) that is readily available on this subject and so, with regret, as it is an interesting topic, I will vote to close this question.

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    Please do not post an answer and also vote to close. It looks bad.
    – tchrist
    Commented Sep 24, 2023 at 14:07
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    I'm skeptical of this website's reliability; many of its claims lack citations and this seems like such a cherry-picked oversimplification of the literature that I find it questionable as an answer to the question.
    – alphabet
    Commented Sep 24, 2023 at 14:29
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    @Greybeard Don't post an answer citing a source whose reliability you yourself find questionable, and instructing the OP to verify its correctness.
    – alphabet
    Commented Sep 24, 2023 at 14:59
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    @Greybeard If you find that Lakoff paper a reliable source, by all means post an answer based on it, not on this (frankly) dumbed-down summary. It's an academic paper and thus a much more appropriate source than the link you posted.
    – alphabet
    Commented Sep 24, 2023 at 15:10
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    @alphabet The Lakoff is great, but it's 50 years old now and Lakoff was just kicking this kind of research off. Our understanding has changed massively since and so has the language use. But as for that article, the writer is barely literate. Commented Sep 24, 2023 at 16:28

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