An expression became popular a number of years ago, and it was
The tyranny of the urgent
The expression means that there are times when the lesser important things in life become so demanding that we let the truly important things slip by us. Some relevant examples of things that tyrannize us in 2021 are emails, particularly those that lure us into opening them because there is something free involved; voicemails; telemarketing calls; Facebook updates and postings of friends; and so much more.
All of the above may seem urgent at the time we become aware of them, but in terms of what is really important to us, such as relationships with family and friends, they are of little importance. They are also time wasters and energy sappers.
So if your wife, Cascabel, wants to use the phrase in everyday conversation, she might try saying, for example,
Sounds to me, my friend, you are being tyrannized by the urgent!