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a single word that fits best with the definition of internal indecisiveness between two very desirable things. Kind of like the word ‘friction’ but even that doesn’t sound quite right.
An example would be “his constant word like friction between going to Paris or London”
I think quandary works quite well here.
Quandary
Cambridge Dictionary
a state of not being able to decide what to do about a situation in which you are involved:
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swither = to be uncertain about what to do or choose
Hence: "his constant swithering between London or Paris"
Merriam Webster states the word to be mainly British dialect. That is consistent with the use I have heard this last 70 years. Google ngram supports MW in showing ten times the British usage compared to the American.
A choice between two equally good options is called the dilemma of
So it is still referred to as a dilemma, but often stated obliquely (not as a 'thing'), e.g. "You are in the same situation as Buridan's ass."
Did you consider an adjective instead of a noun?
his constant delightful dilemma between going to Paris or London”
A little alliteration always helps too.
The indecisiveness might be covered by vacillation, though this suggests a changing or wavering mind.
