What are the differences between the terms "How come ... we eat breakfast?" and "Why ... do we eat breakfast?"
The words phrase based in how seems really awkward to me, and I don't understand this convention.
What are the differences between the terms "How come ... we eat breakfast?" and "Why ... do we eat breakfast?"
The words phrase based in how seems really awkward to me, and I don't understand this convention.
"How come...we eat breakfast?" is less formal. As Robusto commented, it's a contraction of something like: "How does it come to be that ...?" or "How has it come to pass that...?"
Also, it's not as confrontational. "How come you turned up late?" is softer than "Why did you turn up late?". It is a subtle mechanism that allows us to drop the 'do' verb from the question.
The latter is something your boss might ask. It is a very direct question expecting a direct answer, with the emphasis on "you doing".
The former is something your work colleague might ask. It is softer because it acknowledges that 'it came to be' that you were late. The emphasis is shifted off "you doing".
There are answers here that are close, but claim that "how come" is a contraction.
Come has a sense, meaning "turn out", "happen", "come about". It's a relatively rare use now, but it was once more common:
Til it com on a fest dai, þat king herod did for to call þe barnage — Cursor Mundi c 1400
Whan it came vpon a daye that Elcana offred. — 1 Samuel 1:4, Coverdale's Translation, 1535.
All things ar cumde for the best. — Ane verie excellent and delectabill treatise intitulit Philotus, 1603
And when that sense was current, we could apply how to it to enquire as to the way by which something "turned out/happened/came about":
How com'st that you haue holpe To make this rescue? — Shakespeare, Coriolanus.
While this sense of come waned, its use in how come popped up as a colloquial survivor and grew from there.
Considering it a contraction of "how did it come that" will provide a fine understanding of the meaning, but is not what it actually is.
It seems that there are in general two broad but distinct types of the question Why. One asks for a cause or purpose and the other asks for an intended outcome or result. The question How come is limited to asking only the former type of Why questions and not the latter.
I have been thinking on this for a while...
"How come...?" is asking for the history, verbs, facts behind a condition, i.e. "How come all of your coffee cups are so small?" The answer would explain the history of the larger cups breaking, the small-cup sets received as gifts, etc.
"Why...?" is asking more of a present-tense description defining the condition in question. "Why are all of your coffee cups so small?" "Because I have a problem with caffeine", or "I don't know".
Also, Why?/because. How come?/ Not positive, not thought all the way through, but "Why" wants a current condition definition, "How come" wants a history...
"How come" [how did to come to be that] is used more conversationally. It can express an air of surprise, indignation, or unfairness. I wouldn't use it in formal speaking or writing. You don't need the do auxiliary verb usually formed with question words.
"What for" is asking for the intended purpose of a request.
What do you want to borrow my car for?
"Why" is the general question word that covers all your bases. Sometimes you use the 2 constructions above for clarity of expression.
In my view "How come + that-clause?" derives from "How does/did/has it come?".
1 How come you know so much about computers?
2 Why do you know so much about computers?
It seems there is no difference in meaning between 1 and 2. And yet there is a difference. But how to explain it? That's the question!
I wish I could explain it, but I see I get into trouble. Maybe I could say the question with why is a blunt question, whereas the question with how come indicates we admire that the person spoken to has such great knowledge about computers and that we are interested in hearing more about it, we would like to hear the whole story. I think the question with how come shows that we take a lot of interest in the other person. Perhaps one could say the question with how come has some emotional value whereas the question with why has none.
By the way Germans use the same formula: Wie kommt es, dass ...?