tl;dr– The term "man-in-the-middle" is already completely gender-neutral when understood. Those who'd misinterpret "man" as an adult male human are liable to have similar misconceptions about other aspects of the term, so it'd probably be most helpful to address these sorts of misconceptions together.
Specific suggestions:
Standard term |
Potential substitute |
man-in-the-middle |
[Pick a more specific term.] |
passive man-in-the-middle attacker |
intermediary that spies on communications |
passive man-in-the-middle attack |
intermediary spying event |
active man-in-the-middle attacker |
intermediary that alters communications |
active man-in-the-middle attack |
intermediary communication-altering event |
active-or-passive man-in-the-middle attacker |
intermediary that spies on or alters communications |
active-or-passive man-in-the-middle attack |
intermediary spying-or-communication-alteration event |
What's a man-in-the-middle (MitM)?
Clarifications regarding a man-in-the-middle (MitM) attack:
The "man" is a generic entity.
It is not assumed to be singular, human, adult, nor male.
In practice, it's usually non-human.
The "middle" is a generic position between the endpoints.
It is not assumed to be midway between the endpoints.
In practice, it's usually not located at equal distances from the endpoints.
The "attack" is a generic undesired interaction.
It is not assumed to be a physical attack, nor to result in harm, physical or otherwise.
In practice, it's often either passive spying or active filtering. Active filtering is often well-intentioned.
For the purpose of this question, we can probably group interpretations of the term into two categories:
Interpretations which mistakenly conceptualize the "man" as a singular adult male human.
Interpretations which don't make that mistake.
If we changed the word "man" to a gender-neutral alternative, e.g. "person", then:
Those who understood that "man" wasn't a singular adult male wouldn't find the new term to be any more clear, as they weren't confused in the first place.
Those who misunderstood "man" as a singular adult male would probably still be substantially confused about most of what the term means; merely losing the presumption of the "man" being a male would be a pretty small step in the right direction.
So there'd seem to be two major solution pathways:
Leave the term as-is. Those who understand it already understand that it's not gendered, while those who misunderstand it as gendered have much larger conceptual problems to deal with anyway.
Choose a new term that substantially addresses the body of misconceptions that someone who'd read "man" as gendered is likely to have.
Assuming you want a new term, then presumably Solution Pathway (2) would be the way to go. So, let's not just substitute something for "man", but rather rework the term entirely to avoid the constellation of related misconceptions that someone who misunderstood "man-in-the-middle" would presumably be disposed toward.
Since the term is already fine in the abstract, the confusion would likely have to be addressed at the level at which it exists, i.e. at the level of overly literal interpretations which are intolerant of overloaded terminology. To address this, presumably we ought to focus on choosing terms which have more literal primary definitions.
Specific points to fix up:
Instead of "man", more literally refer to the generic entity in the line-of-communication.
Instead of "middle", more literally refer to the property of being a link in a the line-of-communication between end-points.
Instead of "attack", more literally refer to the behavior of the intermediary to do something other than blindly pass along a communicated message.
Instead of using an abstract term that refers to both active and passive man-in-the-middle attacks, select different terms that more concretely refer to these cases separately.
Specific suggestions: For passive man-in-the-middle attacks.
A passive man-in-the-middle attack is when a communication link gets information from the messages it passes.
Simple example: If students pass notes in a classroom, then a student between the note-sender and note-recipient who looks at what the note says is a passive-man-in-the-middle.
Such a passive man-in-the-middle attack might be called:
- an intermediary spying event.
The passive-man-in-the-middle attacker might be called:
an intermediary that spies on communications;
a spying intermediary.
Specific suggestions: For active man-in-the-middle attacks.
An active man-in-the-middle attack is when a communication link alters information from the messages it passes. This can include inserting fake content or/and removing real content.
Simple example: If students pass notes in a classroom, then a student between the note-sender and note-recipient who tampers with what the note says is an active-man-in-the-middle.
Such an active man-in-the-middle attack might be called:
an intermediary communication-altering event;
an intermediary communication-tampering event.
The active-man-in-the-middle attacker might be called:
an intermediary that alters communications;
a communication-altering intermediary;
a tampering intermediary.
Discussion: Regarding descriptions of "attacks" and "malice".
An attacker is someone who attempts to harm the subject of the attack. They have malice toward that which they intend to harm – by definition, as their intent to harm something is malice toward it.
This can get confusing when we talk about stuff like communication protocols, as someone can attack in one subjective frame but not another.
For example, say you're walking down a sidewalk, when a car swerves and nearly hits you, but someone else shoves you out of the way: did they "attack" you?
In a sense, yes. By forcibly altering your body without your consent or permission, they've attacked you, in the sense of the you-who-didn't-want-to-be-physically-altered-by-a-stranger-without-consent-or-permission.
In a sense, no. By saving you from being hit by a car, they saved you, in the sense of the you-who-wouldn't-want-to-have-been-hit-by-a-car.
In a sense, kinda, but it was okay. Assuming they couldn't have easily saved you without touching/shoving you without consent, then typical social norms would find the good aspect of their behavior to be superior to the poor aspect of their behavior, for a positive net overall judgement.
This gets more complicated when we start talking about online communications because people online adopt many simultaneous identities. For example, when you connect to a bank account, various notions of you desire:
to have a secure connection to your bank account;
to connect to what you think is your bank's webpage;
to not be tricked into connecting to a fake bank site;
to not have anyone tamper with your bank account without your permission;
to have financial security;
and many more.
So, hypothetically, say a scammer sends you an email that fradulently claims to be from your bank. The scammer wants you to click a link that'll send you to a webpage that looks like your bank's website, because they copied it, but sends your login credentials to the scammer instead. But your country's intelligence services have, without your knowledge or consent, established filtering mechanisms that detect such fraud attempts and then block them. One such intelligence-agent felt guilty about hacking your email without consent, so they ended up stealing your online-banking-credentials instead of the scammer, using them to deposit a bunch of money in your account. So.. did they attack you?
In a bunch of senses, yes: they spied on you, tampered with your communications, and altered your bank account without your permission. All pretty serious attacks! But in a bunch of senses, no: they saved you from having your life wrecked, and gave you greater financial security, as you'd have liked.
So, how do cyber-security experts judge who's an attacker and who's not? They don't!
Not an in overall sense, anyway. Rather, anyone who acts outside of protocol, regardless of their greater intent, is a "malicious attacker" in the context subjective to that protocol. Because they've attacked the protocol, which in the subjective context of the protocol is the thing that'd be attacked by an "attacker". And they're "malicious" in the sense of having acted to harm the intended operation of the protocol.
Long story short, "attackers" and "malicious actors" aren't necessarily references to actions that a normal person would find reprehensible. Rather, in-context, we're talking about relationships to technical protocols and whatnot.