In the dictionary

get married: to become joined in marriage

They're planning to get married in October.

married (adj): having a husband or wife

So, this is what I think

we often say "I'm married" which means "I have a husband or wife", we don't say "I get married".

We say "I was married" which means "I had a husband or wife in the past but I may or may not have a husband now"

We say "I got married" which is nearly the same as "I had a wedding"

get married (=to have a wedding)

Did you know that they are going to get married?

  • Does this answer your question? Grammar of "married" in "getting married" 'Get married' uses the get-passive and is inchoative ('tie the knot'). "We were married in Dunstable" has the same sense, "We got hitched/married in Dunstable". But "We were married" can also have a stative, durative sense: "We were married for over 50 years". Sep 5 '20 at 11:18
  • Whether a past participle is being used as a verb or an adjective has also been thoroughly covered. See, for instance, Devastated: verb or adjective?. Sep 5 '20 at 11:23
  • @EdwinAshworth, "we have been married for over 50 years" is more accurate if you want to say the action lasted from a point of time in the past to now. And the link you gave is not a correct answer. "get married" means "to become joined in marriage"
    – Tom
    Sep 5 '20 at 11:25
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    (1) I didn't and don't. (2) I disagree. As do Barrie England, and The ‘Cambridge Grammar of English’ , Carter and McCarthy. See John Lawler's answer at What meaning of 'get' is {used} in the 'get paid' {expression}?. Sep 5 '20 at 11:33