I know the meaning of every word in it, but I can't fully understand it. The quote is:

“The ability, to hold something we’ve done or failed to do, up against who we want to be, is incredibly adaptive. It’s uncomfortable but it’s adaptive.”

I perceive its meaning to be: Ability to holding our past works against what we want to be.

But this is meaningless! What is its meaning?


It's actually the opposite of your interpretation.

The ability to look critically at our past is incredibly helpful in making us adapt. It's uncomfortable but helpful.

The key here is the meaning of adaptive:

providing, contributing to, or marked by adaptation : arising as a result of adaptation

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  • How it help to adapt?! – mohammadsdtmnd Oct 7 '19 at 0:13
  • Whatever doesn't kill you makes you stronger – David M Oct 7 '19 at 0:14
  • Excellent answer man. :) – mohammadsdtmnd Oct 7 '19 at 0:15
  • Before this quote she was telling about correlation of feeling of shame and addiction,... . I wonder why this phrase have no correlation with the previous phrase?! – mohammadsdtmnd Oct 7 '19 at 0:22
  • It make you stronger, but it doesn't relate to comparing it with what you want to be, I think that killing quote focus is more on experience achieved. – mohammadsdtmnd Oct 7 '19 at 0:31

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