A kid I know took his own life, to the shock of his family. I do not know them though I have their names thanks to the obituary. He and I were close friends a few years back and I still think the world of him so I want to send them a card. But since he was younger, he left behind parents, step parents, an assortment of siblings and half siblings, and older relatives. I know they're all in shock and would like to make sure they all know they have my condolences, but I'm not sure how to address one card and envelope to so many people. It's the mother's and step-father's address that I have, but I'm sure his father and his sister who don't live there would appreciate being included. Help?
but I'm not sure how to address one card and envelope to so many people.
Do you mean a physical address or "Dear X,"? Either way, I think you should write two cards and send one to each house. If you don't know the house address for the father and sister, call a different member of the family and ask if they know. If your problem is not knowing how to address them in the card, perhaps you could use "Dear bereaved,"
Bereaved: someone who is suffering the death of a loved one. -Merriam Webster