My problem is that I don't know whether I should use 'to' or not when I say the sentences I wrote below. Can anyone tell me which one is right and why, 'have you gotten New York safely?' or 'have you gotten to New York safely?'? I don't know what to say when it comes to those. I get confused. I often hear people say 'did you get home?' and 'did you go home?' and they don't use 'to'. But they also say '...go(get) to your office...' or '...go to school'. I want to know the reason.
I think the sound of got-to run together may have left you thinking of gotten.
Only the animal catching its prey has gotten its meal.
Using simpler words the right meaning would come through more easily.
'Did or will you get to New York safely?'
'Have you got to New York safely?'
'Had I got to New York safely I would have called'
These are all about a destination of a city or place where to would be correct. From to the state of New York to the city, to my street or to my house these all use to. Going to my home would be correct as well but it would be fine to say you went home. Or did you go home or get home. The nature of this exception baffles me.
I hope this helps.