How does this work when the person being referenced is deceased? Which of these is correct?

  • John was my grandfather.
  • John is my grandfather.
  • We don't do that "was" business, not if we miss them. We turn it around. Question: Did you know John? Answer: Yes, I'm his granddaughter. It may be a Southern thing; I'm not sure. – KannE Apr 5 at 1:32
  • John was your grandfather, but you are his grandchild. You are alive when you speak. – Michael Harvey Apr 5 at 6:43

You would say "John was my grandfather". This is because when he died, he essentially stopped being your grandfather, so to speak. It is like if being a grandparent of parent is an occupation, like being a carpenter. You would say "John was a carpenter." Likewise, you would say "John was my grandfather."


You would use the word was because that means before, is means that they are currently your grandparents but because of their nonexistence it's not possible for them to be anything. They were once your grandparent.

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