Sometimes, people are not up for the task to which they've committed themselves. That is, they have a problem handling a part of it, for whatever reason. Instead of admitting that, they respond by attempting to trivialize that part, even though it's a basic part of the task at hand (based on mutual/common knowledge).
Example #1:
Situation: Committing to picking up a mother and her newborn from the hospital but forgetting to bring the infant car seat.
Mutual/common knowledge: Child safety seat law (enforced for child safety).
Response: Attempting to trivialize the law itself and the mother's concerns instead of just retrieving the car seat (or sending someone to fetch it).
Example #2:
Situation: Bringing up "no nut products allowed" while discussing school snack rotation with other parents.
Mutual/common knowledge: 1. Known allergies to nuts. 2. Some kids share snacks whether they're allowed to or not.
Responses: From tuning out, frowning, scoffing...to theorizing that allergies are a myth (concocted by Big Pharma) versus just agreeing to buy or require nut-free snacks.
Question:
What is a word/phrase/idiom for being subjected to those type of responses during similar situations?
When I reminded her about the car seat, she just _____ me.
The parent who brought up the no-nut thing was _____ by some of the others.
Thanks for any suggestions.