I am totally in favour of including non-binary folks in my written and spoken speech, though I'm not sure exactly how I go about doing it competently without sounding like I am trying to avoid particular forms of speech, etcetera. Whenever I have tried to do such a thing it has always come out as being too ambiguous that the reader(s) and or listener(s) are genuinely confused. This is probably minimally due to my still being a learner of English. I'll provide you with a few examples so that you can see where I am going with this:
Instead of saying something like "all genders'", "genders", "the genders", "all gender identities", "gender identities", etcetera, how can one include everyone without using those kinds of words? Using "all genders'" and "genders" is very exclusionary as it is omits people from the equation who don't feel like they have a gender identity(s), as well as people with multiple gender identities and or with a fluid gender identity. Utilising "the genders" --- due to the way in which, for example, "the sexes" are used (despite sex and gender being distinct, in my estimation) --- generally only produces thoughts and images of women and men in one's mind, so that is just as bad. For one to deploy "all gender identities" and or "gender identities" is, too, terrible as it sounds rather one-sided and for people who don't believe in transgenderism or who are unsupportive of it, I want them not to feel like they are listening and or reading about a political and or ideological agenda as that may possibly distract them from my message(s) and make them feel excluded as well which I don't want at all. Words like 'several', 'few', 'either', 'either and or', etcetera, are, too, entirely useless.
Any helpful tips?