What is the difference between "Excuse me, ..." and "Sorry, ..."? When do we use one or the other?

For example, when you haven't heard the speaker, or stepped on someone's foot or accidentally spilled some sauce.

  • Do you have example situations you would use them in? Nov 11, 2011 at 22:14
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    Haven't heard speaker. Stepped on the leg. Accidentally poured sauce.
    – anatoliiG
    Nov 11, 2011 at 22:25

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Sorry expresses more regret than excuse me does.

If I'm trying to leave the room and you're in my way, I'll say "Excuse me." I recognize that I'm inconveniencing you by asking you to move, but the inconvenience is very small, and I don't expect you to be offended by the request. People often say "excuse me" when they commit small violations of etiquette, such as sneezing loudly.

If I accidentally step on your toe while I'm trying to get to the door, I'll say "I'm sorry!" I didn't mean to step on your toe, and I regret injuring you.


"Excuse me" is asking for permission. "Sorry" is asking for forgiveness.

You say "excuse me" before doing something that might inconvenience someone.
You say "sorry" after having inconvenienced someone.

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    You've never said "excuse me" after jostling someone on the subway?
    – Marthaª
    Nov 11, 2011 at 22:52
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    @Marthaª: I have. But my preference in this context is "sorry."
    – Tom Au
    Nov 11, 2011 at 22:53
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    Normally one says "excuse me" when attempting to get past someone on the subway, and "sorry" when bumping into them after failing to get past smoothly. Nov 11, 2011 at 23:50
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    This is reductive and wrong. Another example: "Sorry, could you repeat that?" And what is the need for caps?
    – z7sg Ѫ
    Nov 12, 2011 at 3:12
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    People misuse words all the time but the sense of this answer is correct. Excuse me usually precedes the offensive action and sorry often follows it. Nov 13, 2011 at 1:37

Investigating the speech of the English upper class in 1956, the linguist Professor Ross identified U(pper) and Non-U(pper) features. ‘Pardon’ was a non-U term used

  1. When the hearer didn’t hear the speaker properly;

  2. As an apology (e.g. on brushing by someone in a passage); and

  3. After hiccuping or belching.

The U equivalents were (1) What? (2) Sorry (3) (Silence).

These days, I suspect AmEng uses Excuse me more often for (1) and (2) than does BrEng, which prefers Sorry. BrEng mainly uses Excuse me for (3) and perhaps AmEng does too.

If you bump into someone on a British street, the bumped is just as likely as the bumper to say Sorry.

  • The amazing thing is the way in which the upper class folk sound less refined than the people who are trying to pretend to be them. I mean, really, not excusing yourself at all for a belch? Nov 12, 2011 at 15:39
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    @KarlKnechtel Knechtel: U terms are certainly more direct, and to that extent I applaud them. The explanation is that the upper class are secure and have no need to prove anything. In contrast, the aspirational middle class say the things they THINK are correct in order to impress. As for the silence after belching, I suppose the rationale might be that to say anything at all only draws attention to it. Nov 12, 2011 at 17:54

I suspect they're both equally valid and you decide to employ each as befits your own sense of conversational aesthetics. If you unexpectedly sneezed on somebody you could look up full of remorse and state either with the same level of regret and request for forgiveness. Sorry and excuse me both seem perfectly valid comments to make when manoeuvering around someone as well. I think this is a situation when you are able to choose according to your own ear and what is the preferred word/phrase to suit yourself.

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