Is there a word for being in love with an idea but not liking the reality? Or the disparity between how you think something will be and how it actually is?

The best that I could do was "romanticisation".

An example might be: "In spite of her ____ of the job, she didn't really enjoy it at all."

  • So, why is romanticization not a good fit? In order to find the word you're looking for, we need to know what kind of qualities romanticization has that you're not looking for. Nov 24, 2018 at 21:01
  • Expectations???
    – k1eran
    Nov 25, 2018 at 1:21

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You may use idealization:

a conception of something that dwells on its advantages and ignores its deficiencies.

(Collins Dictionary)

Despite her idealization of the job, she didn’t really enjoy it at all.


Id say for a characterization you could use dilemma or quandary.

It must be woman in this scenario, I feel ambiguous fits too

  • Hi Samantha, welcome to the site! I don't think your suggestion really answers the question, as it does not fit into the blank of the example sentence. (I do see how it relates to the situation overall, but the question is looking for word fitting a specific aspect of the situation as demonstrated in the example.)
    – Hellion
    Sep 18, 2019 at 15:59

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