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For example, you can tell your friend is furious at you, so you try to dodge their inevitable fury. You may do a nervous laugh and say "Wow, you look great!" or "Nice weather we're having!"
What would be a good way to describe that, preferably using a verb?
The word that comes to my mind is ‘diffuse’, as in the common phrase “diffuse the situation”.
To diffuse a feeling, especially an undesirable one, means to cause it to weaken and lose its power to affect people.
- The arrival of letters from the president did nothing to diffuse the tension. [VERB noun]
(Collins Dictionary)
It's perhaps obfuscate.
ODO:
obfuscation
NOUN [mass noun]
The action of making something obscure, unclear, or unintelligible.‘when confronted with sharp questions they resort to obfuscation’
It's a diversion tactic.
Usage:
George K. Simon, Dealing with Covertly Aggressive Personalities, "The Unbounded Spirit":
Another example of a diversion tactic can be found in the story of Don and Al. Al changed the subject when Don asked him if he had any plans to replace him. He focused on whether he was unhappy or not with Don’s sales performance – as if that’s what Don had asked him about in the first place. He never gave Don a straight answer to a straight question (manipulators are notorious for this). He told him what he thought would make Don feel less anxious and would steer him away from pursuing the matter any further. Al left feeling like he’d gotten an answer but all he really got was the “runaround.” [emphasis mine]
diversion (WP)
(military) A tactic used to draw attention away from the real threat or action.
