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What would you call a person who would always response with 'I don't know' when thinking about their likes, favourite things, or their future (like plans for the next day or what they want their life to be like etc.)

I'm looking for a word describing a person who is and whose personality/ lifestyle is 'undefined'.


My candidate (not quite): the word impersonal

(Merriam-Webster): not existing as a person : not having human qualities or characteristics

(Dictionary.com) having no personality; devoid of human character or traits: an impersonal deity.

I'm not sure if it works here, as in a sentence

'*He never knows what he wants/ needs, he feels like he has nothing going on, he's ________ [like a clean slate]. (=He would describe himself as impersonal*)'


I'd want that adjective to describe someone's void/ emptiness =the lack of fundamental qualities that makes person a person (not the words for simply not being interesting or being lifeless like dull or lacklustre)

  • Please provide a sample sentence or two. – lbf Nov 5 '18 at 19:17
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    The fact that somebody says "I don't know," doesn't mean that they actually don't know. It could just mean they don't want to talk about it. Unless you know for certain what's going on in their head (and you can't if they don't talk about it) at best all you can say is that they are uncommunicative (with you, on that subject) and they are a mystery. – Jason Bassford Nov 6 '18 at 4:13
  • @JasonBassford it's a hypothetical question. I'm not really assuming here that someone is empty inside just because they don't want to talk about things with me. But imagine you deal with a person who doesn't know their own likes and dislikes, wants and needs =someone who doesn't know himself/ herself, and therefore he/she makes odd and meaningless life decisions; someone 'undefined'. – Aduku Nov 6 '18 at 10:46
  • @Aduku What you just said in your comment is very different from what you said in the question. In the question, you don't say that they don't actually know. You say that they respond to your question with "I don't know." You only describe behaviour. If you want a precise answer, you need to edit your question to clarify. (In fact, mentioning that they reply, "I don't know." is misleading. Simply state that they don't know: "What do you call someone who doesn't know . . .?") – Jason Bassford Nov 6 '18 at 14:30
  • @JasonBassford Ok edited. I meant a completely hypothetical scenario, like, imagine someone who always answers 'I don't know' and so on. – Aduku Nov 6 '18 at 19:25
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As suggested in comment by Dan Bron : aimless.

Lacking direction or aim; purposeless; desultory; (also) without the means of taking aim

OED

Albert Einstein’s best ideas came when he was aimless. Yours can too

qz.com

  • Also 'directionless' – chasly from UK Nov 5 '18 at 21:21
  • Thanks for your suggestion, but I wouldn't want that word to have negative connotations – Aduku Nov 6 '18 at 19:37
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I've seen rudderless used in this context.

'He doesn't know what he wants/needs, he has nothing going on; he's rudderless.'

ODO:

rudderless
ADJECTIVE

1.1 Lacking a clear sense of one's aims or principles.

‘But doesn't all this leave us dangerously rudderless, drifting on relativistic seas?’

‘Entering their thirties, the men are stuck in adolescence, rudderless, jobless, and harboring dreams of escaping their small town - dreams they never act on.’

‘A bit rudderless and uncertain about his future prospects, Saleem falls under the influence of fundamentalist agitators, who operate under the patronage of the local landlord.’

Macmillan:

rudderless
ADJECTIVE

lacking any clear aim, purpose, or direction

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Indecisive, as in:

  • prone to or characterized by indecision
  • not clearly defined, indefinite
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You could call that person a cypher:

  1. a person or thing of no value or importance; nonentity.

From TFD Online

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Someone as you described may also just be confused or ambivalent. The words you suggested - aimless and directionless are quite judgmental. It is possible they are still figuring things out and may not be passionate about one particular way of life.

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Motiveless. Lacking direction. Lost.

As an aside, such people have usually not fully committed to being here in their body - or on the planet. Thus their ability to commit to anything else is severely impaired - well - missing. As they ‘fell at the first hurdle’ - committing to life. So the 2nd, 3rd and 4th hurdle are, well - beyond them.

Usually I help them revisit their incarnation moments or birth experience and overcone their resistance (I’m a therapist). When people respond ‘I don’t know’ to my first question about ‘what they need help with’ then it is a clear indication that they have this issue. Usually they are relieved to understand the problem and overcome it. We always do overcome it.

It is often just a part of the person who has this issue. Other parts of them might be motivated and fine. But as soon as they go into this part... they flop. And can’t do... anything.

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