In Asian countries, such as China and Korea, populace's aesthetic is quite different from the US.

We prefer a girl who is more sweet, pure, and inoffensive, (my translation is not authentic in English, since sweet can be used to describe any kind of attractive females). And in Asian countries, it is a praise for a girl if she has the characteristics above. I am just wondering whether there are commendatory and exact words in English to describe such girls (not the word to describe their lack of sex experience).

I once read a paper, named Automated Inference on Sociopsychological Impressions of Attractive Female Faces, in arXiv.org. It explores the potential of supervised machine learning in face-induced social computing and cognition. Their research subjects are restricted to young Chinese females that are considered by mainstream Chinese to have attractive faces:

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They run the Baidu (Baidu is an engine same as Google) image search engine with key words: beautiful/pretty/attractive girls/young women, to select the sample images. The Baidu image search engine relies mainly on captions, labels and blogs associated with the images to produce the query results. The selected face images are divided into two subsets, denoted by S+ (sweet, endearing, elegance, tender, caring, cute.)and S− (pretentious, pompous, indifferent, coquettish), corresponding to the approval and disapproval type respectively. And the image I showed belongs to S+. I know the Chinese characters they actually used as key words. However, since the author of this paper is Chinese, I think their translation of their key words searching for images in search engine is not correct. Hence I am wondering whether there are excat words to describe these girls in S+.

Here's a link of the paper mentioned above.

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    Can you add a sentence where you would use the word? It's not particularly clear to me if you're looking for a noun or an adjective. – Laurel Oct 18 '18 at 1:12
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    Did you try looking in a thesaurus for the terms you used in your question: "sweet", "pure", and "inoffensive"? Did you try translating the Korean (for example) terms used to describe said women? What results did you get? Where they any good? Unsatisfactory? Why? Your question risks getting ten or more answers, and a mod recently informed me that they are obliged to place a question on hold (i.e no new answers can be posted) if numerous low-quality answers are posted. – Mari-Lou A Oct 18 '18 at 6:53
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    In other words, be as specific as possible, and tell us which words you discarded and why. – Mari-Lou A Oct 18 '18 at 6:54
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    Since the recent edit, I'm uncomfortable with a post supposedly showing what "sweet" "caring" and "cute" Asian girls look like. Especially as the images are of very young women. The OP has still not said which words they have discarded, and there's still no sample sentence either, which the single-word-request specifically demands. – Mari-Lou A Oct 18 '18 at 11:58
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    Questions on choosing an ideal word or phrase must include information on how it will be used in order to be answered. For help writing a good word or phrase request, see: About single word requests – Mithical Oct 18 '18 at 13:56

You can say she is demure.

Demure: (of a woman or her behaviour) reserved, modest and shy

(Oxford Dictionary of English)

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    Interestingly, the OED applies the word to 'persons' and does not restrict it to females : Of persons (and their bearing, speech, etc.): Sober, grave, serious; reserved or composed in demeanour. – Nigel J Oct 18 '18 at 14:32
  • @NigelJ That matches my expectation, describing a man as "demure" wouldn't strike me as that odd. Does it to you? – Azor Ahai Oct 18 '18 at 15:54
  • No @AzorAhai not all. I was pleased to see that it was so. I think an edit to your question, including this, would be useful. – Nigel J Oct 18 '18 at 17:49
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ladylike from the Cambridge English Dictionary:

graceful, polite, and behaving in a way that is thought to be socially acceptable for a woman:

For year after year women put forward the demand for enfranchisement in gentle, ladylike, mild terms.

Some -- perhaps many -- young women in the US nowadays would be irritated at being called ladylike, because, as the example sentence quoted shows, it implies being mild and therefore unforceful and so probably unsuccessful, and also most likely no fun. Paradoxically, the same young women might be defensive if called unladylike because that word implies being rude and crude and unattractive because of her behavior.

  • @ab2 I don't see how it's a paradox at all for women to be bothered by the fact that you're calling them unladylike. By definition, as they are ladies, their behavior is ladylike regardless of what it is or how you think women should behave. – thumbtackthief Oct 18 '18 at 16:02
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From Latin, the word decorare: "beauty, elegance, charm and grace.

thus decorous vocabulary.com adj

characterized by propriety and dignity and good taste in manners and conduct

As in:

She is a decent and decorous woman.

The antonym, indecorous is a useful word for a proper verbal quiver!

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My biggest reserve is with the expression "inoffensive" used by the OP in their title. To physically describe any person, male or female, as being inoffensive is slightly insulting.

The person's sex appeal is so bland and dull as to not to possibly cause offense or raise desire in anyone.

Oxford Dictionaries says that inoffensive is

Not objectionable or harmful

the following is a list of synonyms, listed in the same entry:

harmless, innocuous, unobjectionable, unexceptionable, unoffending, non-aggressive, non-violent, non-combative

However, the sample sentence Oxford provides might explain why the OP thought inoffensive was a term of flattery suitable for a physically attractive young woman

‘a shy, inoffensive, and sensitive girl’

None of the adjectives used really describe a girl's appearance. They would describe her mannerisms, and personality. The authors of the paper, Automated Inference on Sociopsychological Impressions of Attractive Female Faces, cited by the OP, use the following adjectives: pure, sweet, endearing, innocent, cute

I see nothing wrong with these adjectives, they're perfectly fine. These are the type of adjectives that many would use to describe a fresh-faced young woman, who typifies the girl next door appeal

‘…who exudes such familiarity, and who exemplifies a certain stereotype of wholesomeness, approachability, and well-roundedness, while perhaps being a source of latent romantic attraction due to a fondness resulting from such familiarity.

In fact, the sense of freshness and health being representative of beauty is reflected in the following observation, found in the paper

‘One comment that is frequently made by Chinese male graduate students to justify their approval of some female face images is “look natural”’.

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