I want to say that "Feeding from a human doesn't mean killing them" (yes, vampire stuff), but I feel like the them I'm using isn't correct.

But I don't want to use he/she because a human can be either, and I don't want to use it because it sounds weird. What is the best option here?


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Using "them" as a gender-neutral pronoun in this way is grammatically acceptable and is what a modern, native speaker would say.

Much has been written about the use of "them"as a replacement for the antiquated "him" as an epicene. You could restructure to use the plural "humans" in line with traditional advice but it is progressively more acceptable to use the singular they (them) as you have.

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