Are there any polite synonyms for asshole-ish behavior? A good synonym would probably have about the same impact and wouldn't send people looking for their dictionaries.

  • Do you need a specific part of speech?
    – tenfour
    Commented Oct 24, 2011 at 6:10
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    It would help if you could explain how the person or entity is asshole-ish. Being asshole-ish can mean different things to different people. A rude person could be considered an asshole. So could an arrogant or a mean person. Commented Oct 24, 2011 at 12:14
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    @Steve314: Let's not give the Yanks a misleading impression of us Brits! Most of us wouldn't actually say that arsey is a "polite synonym" for asshole-ish! Commented Oct 24, 2011 at 17:01
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    @FumbleFingers - I live near Chatham, Kent - around here, general everyday offensiveness is about as polite as you can hope for ya thick bas... er, sorry about that.
    – user11931
    Commented Oct 24, 2011 at 23:50
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    In the absence of any clarification from OP on exactly what kind of "asshole-ish behavior" he has in mind, I don't see much point to this question. It makes quite a difference to me whether I'm discussing the recent behaviour of the finance industry at a dinner party, or telling a drunk at the bar what I think of him chatting up my date. Except if that bar was in Chatham, where I wouldn't bother with the verbals. Just lay in with fists and feet, the only language they understand there. Commented Oct 25, 2011 at 0:14

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Contemptible behavior or base behavior convey contempt without vulgarity. But I think it will be impossible to quite satisfy your requirement for a word with “about the same impact”. I doubt that vulgarity can be matched for impact by anything but blasphemy – and that only when your audience is religious.

  • God forgive me, but now I'm curious what blashphemy would convey the meaning of asshole-ish behavior.
    – kojiro
    Commented Oct 25, 2011 at 12:21
  • That's a new question, I suppose – I was just making the point about relative impact.
    – MetaEd
    Commented Oct 25, 2011 at 17:51
  • Actually, depending on your audience, you won't be able to find anything that comes close to blasphemy in impact. They'll be agast! Commented Oct 31, 2011 at 21:13

While I don’t use that word myself, like most profanity, its meaning is not very precise. It is used to mean many different things which is only sometimes informed by the context. I’ve seen (or heard) the word used to mean all of the following.

  • arrogant
  • mean-spirited
  • hateful
  • rude
  • self-centered/self-absorbed
  • condescending
  • inconsiderate
  • intolerant
  • self-promoting (especially at the expense of others)
  • stingy
  • greedy
  • argumentative
  • hurtful
  • abrupt, forward, or tactless in speech
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    This is the answer. Too many different kinds of behaviour may be described as "asshole-ish". Commented Oct 24, 2011 at 15:36
  • Most assholes are afraid of getting hurt, so they become obessesed with getting power or control, or they offend others before others have a chance to offend them. We need more words to describe this kind of obnoxious behavior Commented Oct 24, 2011 at 16:47
  • I consider the tone of the first sentence of this answer superlatively "asshole-ish." Just kidding! :p Commented Oct 24, 2011 at 17:13
  • Thank you, but in my opinion and obviously it is only that, I think the right synonym would be a word that means all of 8 of your 14 plus others. (Which I why there might be a need for a single synonym if only it could be found.) Since I'm not any authority I am not going to say which 8.
    – H2ONaCl
    Commented Oct 25, 2011 at 7:47
  • @Broiyan, my point in listing all of the above was to say that you would have to pick the exact meaning you wished to convey before picking a single synonym. Commented Oct 25, 2011 at 22:12

Boorish is a pretty common option.

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    With optional accessory "uncouth". Commented Oct 24, 2011 at 6:16
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    Not that I'm familiar with the word, but also feel like "boorish" has more of an "insufficently refined for the situation" kind of feel. Like someone who thinks it's appropriate to bring their own beer to a dinner party.
    – jprete
    Commented Oct 24, 2011 at 11:54
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    @broiyan: It may be true that only 3% of Americans know the word boorish. And quite possibly 99% of them would understand asshole-ish even if they'd never actually seen the "word" before. But that doesn't alter the fact that boorish is a perfectly valid word, and asshole-ish is best left for inarticulate assholes to use if they know no better. Commented Oct 24, 2011 at 13:07
  • If truly only 3% of Americans have heard of the word boor or don't understand boorish then there is more of an illiteracy problem than I thought there…
    – ghoppe
    Commented Oct 24, 2011 at 17:20
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    @broiyan if that example is the context of the word you're looking for, you should add it to your question.
    – ghoppe
    Commented Oct 24, 2011 at 17:23

I would probably use the word intolerable, whose meaning is both clear and precise. Assholes can’t be tolerated.

Other similar options I’d consider would be unspeakable, reprehensible, and abhorrent.

Also, if you feel like basic synonyms for bad/awful lack force, you could always add a strengthening adverb. Calling someone’s behavior truly rotten, while kindergarten-friendly, is a serious accusation if leveled with the proper gravity.

In light of OP’s search for words both more basic and more emotional, I'm adding heartless and soulless to my list.

These alternatives to asshole-ish were made thinking about OP’s example in a comment about the behavior of the financial industry. I wasn’t really thinking about the general “jerk” sentiment.

  • Good efforts, however, "intolerable" IMHO lacks force. "Unspeakable" is seen off with a "nobody asked you to speak". "Reprehensible" -- yawn. "Abhorrent", where's my dictionary.
    – H2ONaCl
    Commented Oct 24, 2011 at 8:15
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    Obviously, you know your audience. In my world, though, those are forceful words. The adjective intolerable is about as strong as they come.
    – user13141
    Commented Oct 24, 2011 at 8:19
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    Some assholes can be tolerated. Some assholes HAVE to be tolerated. Commented Oct 24, 2011 at 15:34
  • If asshole-ish behavior were truly and universally not tolerated it would be dying off. Not my observation.
    – user597
    Commented Oct 25, 2011 at 1:07
  • Perhaps we have different tolerance levels... ^_^
    – user13141
    Commented Oct 25, 2011 at 6:04

I would call asshole-ish behavior “rude”.

  • "Knowingly rude" might also sound about right but probably fails to convey the level of offence taken, IMO.
    – H2ONaCl
    Commented Oct 24, 2011 at 8:22
  • If he or she means to be rude, then perhaps "mean" would fit better. Commented Oct 24, 2011 at 8:56
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    How about antisocial?
    – Joren
    Commented Oct 24, 2011 at 13:29
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    Rude is quite specific. A person who is manipulative and destructive may be an asshole, but is not rude. Commented Oct 24, 2011 at 15:35
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    "Antisocial" works until it's a group of assholes socializing at the expense of others. Commented Oct 24, 2011 at 16:38

In a business context, unprofessional is the usual euphemism that I see used. Otherwise, rude or insensitive both get the idea across.


Reasonably polite yet quite damning is the word foolishness. With slightly more impact yet just as understandable is idiocy.


I think highly objectionable might serve your needs. It communicates that the object of your ire is behaving in a way that you consider unacceptable and probably rude. I think this is a good fit for asshole-ish because calling someone an asshole mostly communicates that you don’t think they are behaving as a mature adult should.

Her behavior at dinner was highly objectionable; she offended just about everyone at the table.


The word that comes to mind is jerk.

(I’m surprised no one has said this thus far. Any reason for not?)

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    because it is not polite, I guess... XD
    – fortran
    Commented Oct 24, 2011 at 14:25
  • Maybe not... but certainly more polite than asshole
    – user606723
    Commented Oct 24, 2011 at 14:26
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    Where I come from, jerking is far more profane that showing your ass :p
    – fortran
    Commented Oct 24, 2011 at 14:39
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    Err... thats not a primary definition of jerk. jerk - sudden movement.; A way to prepare meat; an unlikable person, especially : one who is cruel, rude, or small-minded; Also, a physics term.
    – user606723
    Commented Oct 24, 2011 at 14:45
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    Of course it is not the primary definition! The same as an asshole primary definition is the anus, and not a person... ¬¬ I think I'm done here, as the system suggests, this is taking too long. Good luck the next time you call someone jerk while trying to be polite.
    – fortran
    Commented Oct 24, 2011 at 14:51

In a comment you wrote

Example: “The financial industry exhibits asshole-ish behaviour.”

If that is the context of your word, one could say:

  • The financial industry exhibits predatory behaviour.
  • The financial industry exhibits heartless (or cold-hearted) behaviour.
  • The financial industry exhibits callous behaviour.
  • The financial industry exhibits ruthless behaviour.

One possible answer is odious.


Wikipedia defines psychopathy as

a mental disorder characterized primarily by a lack of empathy and remorse, shallow emotions, egocentricity, and deceptiveness

Which are all asshole attributes.

Generally, an asshole is a fast driver behind you, who tries to push you to go faster. A moron is a slow driver in front of you who won’t speed up no matter how much you ride their tail.

  • In other words, the moron is anyone in front of the asshole?
    – user597
    Commented Oct 25, 2011 at 1:10
  • @mickeyf - Precisely. Commented Oct 25, 2011 at 15:39
  • If someone's an asshole firstly it wouldn't be polite to call them a psychopath, and secondly it might not be accurate to call them a psychopath, unless they really are.
    – dwjohnston
    Commented Jun 24, 2015 at 3:46


One who purposely and deliberately (that purpose usually being self-amusement) starts an argument in a manner which attacks others on a forum without in any way listening to the arguments proposed by his or her peers. (Urban Dictionary)

This term seems to be gaining use outside forum environments.


As @makerofthings7 suggests in a comment, I think that obnoxious is the perfect synonym for asshole-ish.

It is polite, almost aggressively so, a reasonably good synonym for most of Andrew Neely’s suggestions and I expect it is reasonably well known.


Arrogant or rude, depending on your flavor of asshole.

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    Please, lets not use "asshole" and "flavour" in the same sentence. Commented Oct 24, 2011 at 14:50
  • @chris I didn't even notice until you said that... Thanks a lot.
    – user11550
    Commented Oct 24, 2011 at 14:55

I would say it depends the kind of asshole you are dealing with, for asshole really is a convenient shortcut for a variety of people exhibiting an annoying behaviour. Concerning the ones I usually deal with, I enjoy using terms such as negatively combative or harmfully confrontative.


I would call that arrogant or rude.

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