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What is a word for someone who says everything is his unless you pay half of it. My bf and I have been together for 3 years and I always sleep on one side of the bed and so I call it my side and he said that it’s not my side because I didn’t buy the bed. It’s his.

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    A word for someone like that? How about a “cad.” (Also, I would break up with this cad if I were you, unless, of course, he’s being sarcastic.) – user305707 Aug 9 '18 at 3:42
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    I'd call him an "ex" – Jim Aug 9 '18 at 4:00
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    Sad to say but your bf is right, technically. He is just stating a fact. But tell him that friendship is not about technicalities or terminology but, well, "friendship," which he needs to define better for himself. – Kris Aug 9 '18 at 7:08
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    What I would say to him is: goodby – ab2 MonicaNotForgotten Aug 9 '18 at 15:35
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    Relationship issues aside, what sort of word are you looking for? Per the tag description for single-word-requests, to ensure your question is not closed as off-topic, please be specific about the intended use of the word. YOU MUST INCLUDE A SAMPLE SENTENCE demonstrating how the word would be used. Also, was he joking, in which case you're looking for something amusing to call him? Or was he serious and you want something to put in the restraining order? – Roger Sinasohn Aug 9 '18 at 16:44
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I wouldn't say that there are any exact words to express this idea in English. Usually possession is fairly loose in English. We often use "have" or "my" for association, rather than actual ownership.

As such, one word you could use for him is "Pedantic", which means overly concerned with minor details or rules. "Pedantic" is often used for people who criticize the little things people say (such as "my side of the bed") because of a technicality (real or imagined). Especially if he often corrects little things you say for pointlessly small reasons, "pedantic" is probably a good word to use.

I told my friend to stop being so pedantic after he pointed out my third split infinitive.

Another good word, to point out that he is obsessed with owning things, is "materialistic". Quite simply, he's too focused on material things, and not enough on the important things.

Jack was so materialistic that, when he got into an accident, he cared more about his car than the other people.

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I'd suggest that he is being a scrooge (as opposed to Scrooge)

In the English language, a scrooge – with a lowercase “s” – is a person who is unwilling to give to others. Others words with the same meaning are miserly and stingy. Scrooges are selfish, and not just at Christmas time or the holidays. Here is an example sentence: “Her father is such a scrooge."

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Are you looking for the word possessive? Oxford Learner's Dictionary defines it as

not liking to lend things or share things with others

Example: Jimmy's very possessive about his toys.
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    Yeah, that definitely works, although in the context of a relationship you should note that 'Jimmy's very possessive' normally means he's possessive of the girl herself and often gets foolishly or violently jealous. She'd have to say 'he's possessive of the bed' or 'of his things' every time it came up in conversation. – lly Aug 9 '18 at 5:47
  • In that case, there are a few words to look up in thesaurus.com, including grabby, and acquisitive. – Arun Aug 9 '18 at 5:53
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    How can it be "possessive"? After all, the bed does belong to him, doesn't it? – Kris Aug 9 '18 at 7:04
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    Yes, one can be. However, that's when it's beyond reasonable limits, to the point of being abnormal. If he did not share the bed at all, then that could be possessiveness. Denying that one side belongs to someone else is not. Right? :D – Kris Aug 9 '18 at 7:29
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    @Kris See my answer below. It is beyond reasonable limits to start a fight with one's SO over formal ownership rights when all she is doing is proclaiming a preference and use right for one side. He is being possessive; it's just not the best word in isolation since it has a different meaning when used to describe a boyfriend. – lly Aug 9 '18 at 14:47
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He has a trait of both being a niggard and inconsiderate. So, you say, he is niggardly inconsiderate.

niggardly: [Niggard and nigger wiki are etymologically unrelated words.]

Ungenerous with money, time, etc.; mean.

‘he accused the Government of being unbelievably niggardly’

Inconsiderate:

careless of the rights or feelings of others

‘it's inconsiderate of her to go away without telling us’

Here is an other example,

My boyfriend is a lot of fun and we get on really well, but he can be really selfish and niggardly inconsiderate.

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    I would go with inconsiderate. He isn't being stingy in that she still presumably gets to sleep in the bed. BTW, not sleeping in the bed for a few nights might fix the problem... – MikeJRamsey56 Aug 9 '18 at 4:01
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    This doesn't capture the situation described in the question. Yes, the behaviour is inconsiderate, but being inconsiderate can take many forms. Specifically, the word does not reflect the materialistic nature of the inconsiderateness described. – JJ for Transparency and Monica Aug 9 '18 at 5:21
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    How badly do you want this poor girl to be misunderstood? or to end the relationship? 'Stingy' is a lot safer than 'niggardly', which has literally cost jobs. It has its own Wikipedia page on why you shouldn't use it, except to be SNOOTy about preserving archaic word choices. – lly Aug 9 '18 at 5:58
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    For reference, niggard has absolutely nothing to do with nigger. While the derivation is uncertain, it's probably from Early Scandinavian (cf Norwegian nøgg, Swedish njugg) or the Old English cognate hnēaw, stingy. [OED] – Andrew Leach Aug 9 '18 at 8:46
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    @JJJ upvote Andrew's comment and changed in description. – Ubi hatt Aug 9 '18 at 9:46

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