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Is there a good word for describing "a request that cannot be refused"? For example, the context I'm thinking about is a situation where your boss "requests" that you work overtime one day, but it's pretty clear that it's a request that can't be refused (or, at the very least, it's something you believe you can't say no to).
I guess we could say "irrefusable"? But I'm not sure if that's even the right word, and I'm wondering if anyone can think of a better word for this.
Well, "irrefusable" means "impossible to refuse" (the Merriam-Webster Dictionary). And it's possible to refuse a request (the Oxford Collocation Dictionary). So, technically, if it's impossible for you to refuse a request, the request is irrefusable.
It can also be called an I-won't-take-no-for-an-answer kind of request.
Your boss compels you to work overtime, a request that can't be refused if you hope to keep your job.
compel
- To force (a person) to do something; drive or constrain:
- To necessitate or require, as by force of circumstance; demand:
- To exert a strong, irresistible force on; sway:
I would say it's a request that you are (or feel) obliged to fulfill.
to constrain by physical, moral, or legal force or by the exigencies of circumstance · obliged to find a job · felt obliged to share it with her
Her job obliges her to work overtime and on weekends.
Among the lists of synonyms for 'compulsory / obligatory' and related words, the only one I've found that I'd consider anywhere near suitable for [the giving of] 'not-quite-a-direct' order is
coercion
which CED defines rather amusingly as
the use of force to persuade someone to do something that they are unwilling to do
(the juxtaposition of 'force' and 'persuade' seems very odd).
RHK Webster's gives the senses (for the verb; the noun's definition is derived)
coerce v.t.
to compel by force or intimidation: to coerce someone into signing a document.
to bring about through force; exact: to coerce obedience.
to dominate or control, esp. by exploiting fear, anxiety, etc.
while Collins has
coerce vb (tr)
to compel or restrain by force or authority without regard to individual wishes or desires
So, picking among the definitions, '[referring to an authority] to control, even compel, by exploiting fear of repercussions that could be taken by the authority' is one valid sense.
