(Note: please read through what I am asking before taking offense and feel free to edit to make it less offensive)
When I was growing up in the 70-80s it was common for kids to say things like "oh, your taste in music is so gay". Now, I am not saying we were very tolerant either, but at 12-13 we really didn't know all that much about sexual orientation, and we really meant "your taste is very lame", but with the intent to do it in a vulgar fashion. Later on, we kept on using the word, but really very separately from any homophobic intent per se. This was also often used between people who actually liked each other, more a mock insult than a true one.
Nowadays it's not acceptable to use "gay" in that sense. I am not defending that use and I welcome the shift away from that pejorative usage of the word.
But I wish there was something to replace it with.
Is there a suitably obscene equivalent to "lame", minus homophobic (or racist) overtones? Just to vulgarly express strong contempt for someone's choices or tastes.