What is the word for when you feel the same as someone, you see them in yourself or you are in the same situation?

I think it starts with the letter C.

  • hmmm ... connected [!], conjoined?
    – lbf
    Mar 29, 2018 at 15:58
  • a sample sentence please!
    – lbf
    Mar 29, 2018 at 16:03

5 Answers 5


You may be trying to think of commiserate, but I think empathize is a better fit.


Empathy [ˈɛmpəθɪ] n

1. the power of understanding and imaginatively entering into another person's feelings
2. the attribution to an object, such as a work of art, of one's own emotional or intellectual feelings about it

[from Greek empatheia affection, passion, intended as a rendering of German Einfühlung, literally: a feeling in; see EN-, -PATHY]


Compassion may be the word you're thinking of. Someone who has compassion is sensitive to the feelings of others:

Deep awareness of the suffering of another, coupled with the wish to relieve it

However, compassion does not necessarily mean one has been in the same situation. Empathy may more strongly convey the meaning you want, because it usually means that you can imagine yourself in another's shoes, or if your empathy is born of experience, that you have gone through the same hardships. Someone with empathy has:

capacity to understand another person's point of view or the result of such understanding

  • You should have put empathy first, and not been misled by OP thinking his target word started with C. Compassion is efectively the same thing as sympathy here, and the difference between sympathy and empathy is central to this question. Sep 27, 2011 at 22:21

If 'C' is the initial, then compassion comes closest.

However, by definition, sympathy is the word that fits: 'feeling the same as'. It is sad that the word is more popularly understood as 'pity', which is just another meaning for it.

Look up sympathy in dictionaries for its definition.


I agree with those who said you were probably thinking of "commiserate".

Another term can be relate.
When you relate to someone.

relate to
Feel sympathy for or identify with. ‘kids related to him because he was so rebellious’
Oxford Living Dictionaries

relate to can also mean to share in another persons circumstances.

"I've been made fun of my whole life. I don't know if that's something that you can relate to."

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