Stating to a friend with full intention: "I'm not going to write the person that did me wrong". Then later changing your mind and sending a letter. Then telling friend what you did. Are you defined as a liar?

I was a victim of domestic violence. Ex-fiance is in jail awaiting trial. I stated to a friend I would not communicate with ex-fiance anymore. Weeks later I sent a letter. I shared this information with my friend who then states I was lying to him by stating initially I wouldn't do this. Without intentions of deception and believing myself that I wouldn't is my initial statement of intentions defined as a lie?

  • I believe you mean 'Liar'; as in a person who tells lies, instead of lier, which means one who rests or reclines – Jessica Tiberio Jan 12 '18 at 22:08
  • Yes, my oversight. – G B Jan 12 '18 at 22:17
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    To receive a satisfactory answer on this question you'll need to provide more clarification about the situation. Otherwise you can just search 'liar' and see if your case matches up with the definition – Jessica Tiberio Jan 12 '18 at 22:19
  • Possibly related: Is there a word for a “promise breaker”? – MetaEd Jan 12 '18 at 23:26

According to definitions, what you did would not be considered a lie because you didn't possess a deliberate intent to deceive.


  1. a false statement made with deliberate intent to deceive; an intentional untruth; a falsehood.

  2. something intended or serving to convey a false impression; imposture:

Words that would better fit your case would be deceive or mislead


to mislead by a false appearance or statement; delude:


to lead or guide wrongly; lead astray.

Source for definitions: http://www.dictionary.com/

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