I'm trying to find a word for a gay man, regardless of gender presentation, who tries to seduce lots of guys. Could be pejorative or favorable. Promiscuous and philanderer could work but they're not specific to gay men.

Example: Andrew was such a _____ that he even flirted with guys he knew were straight.


"Man" is to "womanizer" as "woman" is to what?

What is a word for a man who has a lot of sexual relationships?

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    Troll might be a candidate. – Mick Dec 18 '17 at 19:34
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    If you weren't using it as a verb anyway, you could have just called Andrew a flirt. But there are plenty of terms like playboy, Romeo, seducer, rake, roué, libertine, debauchee, stud, that could reasonably be used of a straight or gay man, particularly since your example context makes it obvious Andrew falls in the the latter camp. And to be honest I can't see why you'd want to explicitly identify the subject's sexual orientation if it wasn't essential to the context as per your example. Most people are trying to avoid that kind of thing today. – FumbleFingers Dec 18 '17 at 19:35
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    @FumbleFingers I see a "problem" with calling a man a philanderer, seducer, playboy etc. because the majority of people, when they hear this description assume a man is heterosexual. If I say a woman was a "maneater", (or even a tease), and she even flirted with straight women, you would assume that she was either hetero or bi, without any context we would not assume she was a lesbian. The same is true for Casanova, ladykiller.... – Mari-Lou A Dec 18 '17 at 19:59
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    My limited experience is that many gays would use tart… but they tend to be queeny, campy gays… – Robbie Goodwin Dec 19 '17 at 0:07
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    @Mari-Lou A: Sure - with no contradictory context, you'd assume if "he" were called a philanderer, seducer, playboy he was interested in having sex with women. But as I pointed out, in OP's specific context that's not a credible interpretation - we have to assume Andrew's gay. I will admit that more explicit "orientation" terms like ladies man might be pushing it a bit. But to be honest, I never really even had a problem with Demi Moore in G.I. Jane saying Suck my dick! after kicking the shit out of the bad guy, so I'm pretty accepting. – FumbleFingers Dec 19 '17 at 19:27

Honestly, I think "man-whore" may be used. Self-explanatory, though may not be politically correct.


It's vulgar and probably more 'internet slang', and I do like "man-whore", but I'd say fuckboy (or fuckboi) is more akin to womanizer, as most millennials consider fuckboy to be less gender specific (and more modern term), as well as inclusive of sexuality, than womanizer.

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    Can you provide any reference to establish that this word is in use, and what it means? I’m not familiar with it; it seems like something that could apply to a heterosexual man. – Scott Sep 3 '18 at 1:41

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