My definition of a destructive verb is one that describes a change to the object, such that once the action is completed, it can't be repeated on exactly the same object.
Examples:
I am cutting up an apple
I am eating an apple
If I want to repeat this tomorrow, I have to start with a different apple, since the original apple was destroyed.
Counter examples:
I am feeding my dog
I am walking my dog
I can feed and walk the same dog tomorrow.
Is there a technical term to describe the difference?