I'll clarify the question. Here's the scenario: Person 1 and person 2 are in a relationship. Person 2 breaks up with person 1. Person 1 is hurt and doesn't want the breakup, but they act as if they did (for example, "that's your loss," "didn't want to be in that relationship anyway," etc.).

The sentence would either go like: Person 1 acted [adverb] after the breakup. OR Person 1 [verb] after the breakup.

There's a similar question with answers like "feigning delight" but I'm looking for something with almost a spiteful connotation. I'm also looking for something in more formal language, i.e. "sour grapes" isn't cutting it for me right now.


  • Wait. “Person 2 acted [adverb]” — don’t you mean “Person 1”? Oct 15, 2017 at 20:14
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    'Sour grapes' ?
    – Mitch
    Oct 15, 2017 at 21:03
  • yes I mean Person 1. I'll edit the post. Also @Mitch the sour grapes expression, where someone acts as if they don't enjoy something just because they can't have it.
    – Chris Wang
    Oct 15, 2017 at 21:57

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In your example, I would call Person 1 "disingenuously indifferent" about the breakup of the relationship in more formal usage.

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    See also "feigning indifference" Oct 24, 2017 at 14:35

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