I asked one of my new friends(a week), "On a scale of 1-10 how nerdy are you? Where do you fall?" She is from Chile and she said the question was very rude there. But I don't understand why. I only meant to ask whether she was a studious person or a more socializing person.

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  • In the US (coming from a nerd), I see no problem with that comment. I do not know how other cultures perceive nerdiness, though. – Hank Oct 2 '17 at 15:37
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    I don't see why it would be rude, nor why studious as opposed to socializing is enough to define a nerd. – Robbie Goodwin Oct 2 '17 at 16:01
  • I see your point about defining a nerd but I just want to know how it was rude. – M.Hamza Ali Oct 2 '17 at 16:04
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    @Black and White I don't agree with that. Whether words have positive or negative connotations is often addressed here. "Nerd" and "geek" over time and in different English-speaking countries would be useful to compare. – Xanne Oct 2 '17 at 20:10
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    Whether it's offensive or not is entirely up to the hearer. – Hot Licks Oct 2 '17 at 23:23

Being a 'nerd' implies that someone is more interested in things than in people. And that is deemed, by some, as being an unsociable thing. Therefore it becomes something not to be invited, to be thought of as one of those persons.

Thus it becomes rude to say that someone is a 'nerd'

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