There are a lot of widow questions here on SE.
My same-sex partner has passed away, and today I referred to myself as a widower. But it appears in the Collins English Dictionary that a widower is a man whose wife has died and who has not remarried. It also has a very heavy connotation that I was married to a woman.
Is it exclusively any man who loses a partner is a widower, and any woman (even should she be in a same-sex marriage) who loses a spouse is a widow? Is there another term more appropriate for me to use?