There's a nice cartoon on the web that epitomises what I'm trying to describe:
Another dimension of this behaviour, is that it is often used as part of a manipulation attempt, to get someone to do something they wouldn't normally do because of its potential harm:
- A asks B to do potentially harmful act X (whether intentionally or out of ignorance).
- B refuses, citing the potential risks from doing X
- A claims X is patently not harmful and B's denial has more to do with ulterior motive Y
- Since B cannot conclusively prove X is harmful until B has engaged in X and caused themselves harm, they are left with two equally bad choices:
- either engage in X against your will, risking harm, to prove accusation Y is false, or
- avoid X and give A the ability to claim accusation Y is true, opening B up to further manipulation.
A: Here, have some heroin with me.
B: No man, heroin is addictive, I don't want to.
A: Heroin's not addictive, you're just saying that to judge me.
B proceeds to get addicted to heroin to prove friendship
A: Come to my party! C is coming too!
B: Sorry A, I can't! I have exams!
A: Dude, nobody's ever had to study for that exam! You just don't like C, don't you! That's the real reason you're not coming!
B skips party to study, A tells everyone at school B hates C
A: It's a Tuesday, so let's not use a condom. You can't get pregnant on a Tuesday.
B: What? Yes you can!
A: ... omg, you don't trust me! You think I'm cheating and I have an STD don't you! That's why you refuse!
B proceeds to prove their trust, as well as the fact that you can in fact get pregnant on a Tuesday
Is there a good word, phrase, or proverb that describes either A's behaviour, or the situation B finds themselves in?