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Suppose I follow a different relgion/faith than person X. X had a bad experience with a person Y who follows the same faith as mine. In a conversation between me, X and other friends, X is upset about the incident and starts passing remarks about Y, and that Y follows that particular faith, mocking Y's relegious gestures and clothing, ... etc. All this while X is (or acted as) completely oblivious to the fact I am sitting there and follow Y's religion.

He does not say all people who follow that faith are bad. But he passes remarks such as f word christian/jew/mulsim/hindu.. trash and so on.

Now I follow that faith, and I felt hurt. Although not religous myself, but I still have emotional connection wtih my faith. But questioning myself, I was wondering what does X do to make me feel hurt? Does indirect insult describes it enough, given it has to do with religion?

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    I'm finding it difficult to view those insults as anything but direct! But if this were an SE about advice or psychology instead of English, I'd post an answer that X was indulging in transference that would need to be addressed based on the circumstances and how well you know X.
    – Spencer
    Commented Jan 27, 2017 at 5:21
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    You could say that person X disrespected you, because he said those things knowing you followed Y's religion. Are you looking for something specifically referencing an insult?
    – Hank
    Commented Jan 27, 2017 at 14:23

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a good word for an >indirect insult< is:

to slight

NOTE - you seem to be fairly forgiving of your friend's extremely rude and offensive terms (f'ing)

  • a slight would be something closer to a 'microagression' not the extreme offense you would take from someone directly and belligerently attacking your group or religion

I list -slight- because, your question seemed to be looking for a more mild term than most would apply to the behavior you describe.

Oxford Dictionary definition of Slight (as a verb and noun)

(note, there is the common adjective meaning of slight , meaning Small in degree; inconsiderable: or : thin or slender)

VERB [WITH OBJECT]

1 - Insult (someone) by treating or speaking of them without proper respect or attention:

he was desperate not to slight a guest

2 ...

NOUN

  • An insult caused by a failure to show someone proper respect or attention:

an unintended slight can create grudges

he was seething at the slight to his authority

To make it apply to religion you'd need to bring that up (unfotunately it's not all in one)

i.e. I took his comments about Thor being a 'lightweight', as a personal slight. He should have known that I've worshipped Thor for millenium.

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    I'm not so sure.. "F'ing Thorian trash" is a bit stronger than a slight. A slight would be complaining about your failure to show up to play baseball on Thursday (you were actually drinking mead all day as any Proper Thorian would do).
    – Spencer
    Commented Jan 27, 2017 at 5:28
  • @Spencer I'll edit my comments to make it clearer .. although, it's a tricky one.. usually once someone starts using the F word they're on a rant, turning up the volume a few notches... still.. we don't tolerate that sort of stuff these days for good reasons.
    – Tom22
    Commented Jan 27, 2017 at 5:37
  • @Tom22 The F word is used with insults, outside of rants, plenty. It's more prevalent in the younger genreations.
    – Hank
    Commented Jan 27, 2017 at 14:20
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    I don't think the question is about the mildness of the insult. It's about the indirectness or obliqueness.
    – Drew
    Commented Jan 27, 2017 at 17:08

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