I need a word for the act of impotently whining and crying over something that you can't change —like, for example, moaning and groaning about what to do now that Trump is President-Elect instead of finding something actually useful to do.
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3The term whining covers it per se. Impotent whining would be pleonasm.– Brian DonovanCommented Dec 22, 2016 at 23:26
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@BrianDonovan, yes, I know, but for whatever reason I didn't like "whining". I was writing something for publication and "whining" wasn't a good choice.– CyberherbalistCommented Dec 24, 2016 at 14:20
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"Hand-wringing" is used to express the idea that someone is "fretting" over something and instead of taking positive action, just stands by, impotently wringing their hands.
Hand-wringing as defined by MWO:
an overwrought expression of concern or guilt
This expression dates back to 1922 (per MWO).
I think the word moping works.
Mope:
To be unhappy and unwilling to think or act in a positive way, especially because of a disappointment.
'There's no point in sitting at home and moping - get out there and find yourself another job!' (Cambridge Dictionary)
‘But he frequently has been his own worst enemy by moping and overanalyzing, leading to a loss of confidence and bad habits.’ (OED)
There's always the British "whinging," which I think of as "extra-strength whining". (Also, with respect to the Trunp presidency, I think "grieving" may be what you're observing in others.
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No, it's definitely "whinging". I know what grieving looks like, and I can commiserate with it. The Trump-whinger people are too pathetic to commiserate with. +1 for "extra-strength whining"! Commented Dec 24, 2016 at 14:22
Of course bleating comes from the sound of a sheep or a goat, but it has come to mean a feeble whining, which is pretty close to an impotent whining. The Free Dictionary: bleating ". 2. A whining, feeble complaint."