I'm writing a short story about a gay girl that tells her homophobic friend that she's in love with her. I want to describe the look that the friend gives the gay girl. The friend is kind of feeling like "Oh wow, that's sad how lonely and stupid you are. I almost pity you". What word would I use to describe the friend's emotion?

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adjective Treat with an apparent kindness which betrays a feeling of superiority:

She's a good-hearted girl,’ he said in a patronizing voice

Mock sympathy is an alternative.

Insincere sympathy or acting like you have sympathy but not really having it.

Wikipedia suggests that through insincere usage, the word pity itself holds a more unsympathetic connotation of feelings of superiority or condescension.

For more specificity, you could use condescending along with pity.

  • +1 for patronizing. I don't think condescending and pity can go together. – alwayslearning Dec 7 '16 at 4:01

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