I am looking for a word that describes a personality/person (not in a negative but neutral/positive way) that doesn't care abut anything, has a neutral opinion about most things, is very care free/laxed, etc. The closest I could think of is narcissist but it's not quite right. Is there such a word?

I guess an example would be like "Dave doesn't care if we have a salad, a burger, or a soup for lunch, he is a/very ________."


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    narcissist is not remotely similar. – Martin Smith Nov 13 '16 at 19:47
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    And what’s wrong with your own “carefree”? – Jim Nov 13 '16 at 19:47
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    Before you asked the question, did you search for synonyms for words that are close but not quite right? If so, you should tell about your research in your question, and if not, you should search before asking. – Katherine Lockwood Nov 13 '16 at 20:28
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    Dave is very hungry – jsejcksn Nov 13 '16 at 21:48
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    Since neutral suits your needs perfectly, you're really asking for its synonyms. thesaurus.com/browse/neutral – talrnu Nov 14 '16 at 4:38

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If the person is eager to help or please, consider accomodating that has a positive connotation.

Definition : having an easygoing and cheerful disposition;

Example : Please, make a special effort to be accommodating!

If the person is uncaring, consider indifferent, which is negative.

Definition : Having no marked feeling for or against; without concern; apathetic; uninterested;

Example : Are you really this indifferent to the fact that the two boys were hurt?


Such people are flexible.

"Dave doesn't care if we have a salad, a burger, or a soup for lunch, he is very flexible."


flexible adjective

: willing to change or to try different things

Whatever you want to do is fine with me. I'm flexible.

We can also call them open-minded.


open–minded adjective

: willing to consider different ideas or opinions

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    I think the best word would be "impartial". Has no negative connotations. Is cons ice. For some reason I wasn't able to answer. – deanresin Nov 14 '16 at 6:04

laid-back (laidback)

having a relaxed or casual atmosphere or character; easygoing

relaxed in style, character, or behaviour; easy-going and unhurried

Laid-back has a neutral/positive connotation and describes a person who is relaxed and rarely (or never) feels/shows stress in their day-to-day life.

Dave doesn't care if we have a salad, a burger, or soup for lunch; he is very laidback.

Note: Most online dictionaries list the word as hyphenated, but the unhyphenated version seems to be overtaking (ever so slowly). (ngram for laidback/laid-back 1958-2008)


Easy going

This has a very positive feel, kind of like easy to please.

  1. not easily worried or angered; relaxed and rather casual; calm.

Random House: http://www.thefreedictionary.com/easygoing

Edit: A couple additional ideas


I'm not finding a definition that fits my idea about this word. Here's something close:

on an even keel: regular and well-balanced and not likely to change suddenly



easygoing; calm

Random House: http://www.thefreedictionary.com/even-tempered


May not be not quite right, but it's an interesting possibility. How about blasé?


blasé: having or showing a lack of excitement or interest in something especially because it is very familiar

Your example:

"Dave doesn't care if we have a salad, a burger, or a soup for lunch. He is very blasé about most things."

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    Why did this get a downvote? It's the only answer that has the connotation of disengagement that the OP seeks. – deadrat Nov 14 '16 at 3:11
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    @deadrat That's what I thought. Sometimes the users on this site baffle me. – Richard Kayser Nov 14 '16 at 3:15
  • @deadrat there be trolls, there be random downvotes. Also someone does not like french-sounding words. Don't dwell too much on such stuff. It happens everywhere. But I came here to suggest this word, all I can do now is upvote you, Richard. – Mindwin Nov 14 '16 at 14:13
  • @Mindwin I'm fine with downvotes, but I'd appreciate some sort of rationale ... so there's an opportunity for further exchange. Thanks. – Richard Kayser Nov 14 '16 at 14:47

I would say that such a person is agreeable:

ready or willing to agree : willing to do or allow something


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I would tend to say, as a single-word description, that these types of people are quite passive.

passive (adjective): accepting or allowing what happens or what others do, without active response or resistance.

To directly address your example:

Dave doesn't care if we have a salad, a burger, or a soup for lunch, he is very passive.


I would describe such a person as Sanguine. although the definition the folks at Merriam Webster give:

confident and hopeful

does not seem to fit. I had always seen this used to indicate an even temperament and the example sentences at m-w seem to bear this out. Perhaps I have been mis-using this word


How about apathetic


not having or showing much emotion or interest

Although, from your post its hard to tell if the person does care/have emotions, but is just very agreeable


Consider laid-back

relaxed and easy-going.

It fits the context here to refer to someone who doesn't care much about things and is happy either ways. Using it in your example:

Dave doesn't care if we have a salad, a burger, or a soup for lunch, he is a very laid-back person."

Another alternative would be happy-go-lucky

cheerfully unconcerned about the future.

Both are somewhat positive words.


Here are two options to consider:

insouciant: a relaxed and happy way of behaving without feeling worried or guilty (Cambridge Dictionary).

nonchalant: (of a person or manner) feeling or appearing casually calm and relaxed; not displaying anxiety, interest, or enthusiasm (Oxford).

Neither of these are quite right for the specific sentence you provided, but could apply in many contexts where you want to describe someone who has a carefree or relaxed demeanor.

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