Being this direct (saying directly to other people) is easy when you know there is no need to play games with them or to impress them.

This sentence is in a paragraph that says you should talk directly to other people (especially women). Can "play games" in this sentence mean "deceive other people"? Or does it has another meaning?

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    I would say it means no need to go overboard to make an impression.
    – WS2
    Sep 29 '16 at 17:35
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    Actually, I believe that "play games" implies subtle manipulation or employing guile - both of which are directly opposite of "directness". What has your own research shown? Can you add it to your question? Sep 29 '16 at 18:15
  • This might help en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gamesmanship
    – Spagirl
    Sep 29 '16 at 19:08
  • I've edited my question. Do you think "play games" has another special meaning? Sep 30 '16 at 7:21
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    Having said that I think @Kristina has probably hit the nail on the head.
    – WS2
    Sep 30 '16 at 17:14

This is about psychological games or mind games. Here is a nice breakdown of the basic types: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mind_games

I remember when I was young, there was a book in the house called "Games People Play" (see https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Games_People_Play_(book)). I was big into board games, card games, charades, etc. When I was bored and had run out of things to read, I would go trawling through the book shelves. Every time I came across that title, I would open it up and be disappointed all over again.

Now that I am a more sophisticated reader than I was at age 10, I find mind games an interesting topic to read about.

  • Games People Play deals with Transactional Analysis, a widely used psychology technique . It's a highly accessible methodology to interpret human behaviour ( basically, what does one really mean when he is saying or doing something) . Actually , if the sentence in focus did not end with the part '' or to impress them" the context might very well have been Transactional Analysis. There are other , more accessible books in that genre, mostly inadequately named, like "What do you say after you say hello" . Is not a sales pitch book despite its name, rather, quite a good read.
    – R.S.
    Sep 30 '16 at 7:24
  • @aparente001. I've edited my question. Do you think "play games" has another meaning that is different from " psychological games or mind games" mentioned in your comment? Sep 30 '16 at 7:25
  • Some Example of Games under TA: ericberne.com/games-people-play/marital-games
    – R.S.
    Sep 30 '16 at 7:34
  • @thegioibian - No, I don't think "play games" has another meaning in this sentence. Can you explain why you are feeling doubtful? Sep 30 '16 at 21:11
  • @ aparente001 the sentence are about how a man should talk to other peole ((especially women). if "play games" means " psychological games or mind games", the sentence will be "Being this direct (saying directly to other people) is easy when you know there is no need to read other people’s minds", right?. I think it's not what the writer want to talk about. How do you think? Oct 1 '16 at 7:29

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