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What is the word used for the person who Hurts you?

I have seen the answers here, the question is someone who hurts knowingly. Also here, but someone who hurts unintentionally.

To explain my question, I'm using one quote:

You see a person's true colors when you are no longer beneficial in their life.

What do we call for such person?

  • Perhaps sadist – FumbleFingers Sep 1 '16 at 17:50
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    torturer if the hurting is literal. – David Handelman Sep 1 '16 at 20:09
  • Tormentor...? – WS2 Sep 1 '16 at 21:08
  • @WS2 I was searching the meaning of Tormentor but found only Torment=great mental suffering and unhappiness, or great physical pain. So my understanding is, Tormentor is the one who is suffering, I'm in right? – Krishn Shweta Sep 2 '16 at 7:01
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    @KrishnShweta No, a tormentor is someone doing the tormenting. The person suffering is the tormented. – WS2 Sep 2 '16 at 7:08
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What is the word used for the person who Hurts you?

To explain my question, I'm using one quote:

You see a person's true colors when you are no longer beneficial in their life.

It seems to me that such a person is selfish or narcissistic.

selfish: devoted to or caring only for oneself; concerned primarily with one's own interests, benefits, welfare, etc., regardless of others

narcissistic: refers to someone intensely concerned with only his or her own self or interests and who seems to forget that others exist

When you are "no longer beneficial in their life", such a person moves on without a care in the world, because the only thing that matters to them is them. What "Hurts" is that you care, but they don't.

Being selfish or narcissistic is not the same as being a user or an exploiter, each of which implies intentionality. People who are selfish or narcissistic are so self-absorbed that they use and exploit without even realizing it. It's always all about them. They're not parasites either: parasites at least know they're parasites.

If you're seeking a less commonly used word, narcissistic fits the bill.

  • Thanks Richard Kayseri. I'm looking for the word which is not commonly used. Can you add one more similar word to this which is rarely used ? – Krishn Shweta Sep 2 '16 at 6:21
  • @KrishnShweta You didn't say anything in your question about the word being not commonly used. :-) I'll add another option. – Richard Kayser Sep 2 '16 at 6:49
  • Yeah, true. I apologize ^.^ – Krishn Shweta Sep 2 '16 at 6:55
  • @KrishnShweta No worries. Let me know if you like the new word. It has the same connotations as selfish, but is not nearly as commonly used. – Richard Kayser Sep 2 '16 at 6:57
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    @KrishnShweta If you're happy, I'm happy. Have a good night. I've enjoyed pondering your question. – Richard Kayser Sep 2 '16 at 7:23
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"You see a person's true colors when you are no longer beneficial in their life." If such a person no longer valued your friendship or companionship after you stopped becoming "beneficial" or useful to them, they'd be a

user.

A "user" is someone who uses people for personal gain. Characteristically, a user would no longer associate with someone when they could no longer profit or benefit from the relationship.

Other terms might be:

parasite

or

exploiter

  • "He is a parasite", Is it correct? – Krishn Shweta Sep 1 '16 at 18:02
  • @KrishnShweta, yes. Be aware that it's very insulting, which is the point. – John Sep 1 '16 at 18:06
  • I think no need of bothering about the insult, because the person is using others for his benefits. Thanks John :) – Krishn Shweta Sep 1 '16 at 18:15
  • @KrishnShweta, Exactly! – John Sep 1 '16 at 18:18
  • A user is inherently non-specific, but by default today the unqualified version is generally understood to mean someone who uses software or technical equipment. Not that any of this seems relevant to OP's context, but the context you're talking about would generally be expressed as He [just] uses people [and discards them when they're no longer useful]. – FumbleFingers Sep 1 '16 at 19:21

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