I know there are a few questions like this, but I have always had trouble remembering whether or not a person's child is a boy or girl. When I meet them again, it sounds awkward and/or brash to say "how is your kid?" or "how is your child?"

Is there a way to ask about a person's child in a gender neutral way that does not sound like an alien trying to communicate with new human friends?

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  • If How is your boy? and How is your girl? are not awkward for you, then why is How is your child? awkward? Why do you think that sounds like an alien trying to communicate with new human friends? Clarify that, and we'll have a better idea what you're looking for. Otherwise, the question seems unclear. – Drew Aug 12 '16 at 18:23
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    'How's the family?' – Edwin Ashworth Aug 12 '16 at 19:12
  • It seems weird that you could need to ask about a child that you know so little about - not even a name or gender, or one you have never met. Is there something prompting you to ask? Maybe you could ask about that - "how did the school play you were telling me about go?", or "are you all over the bout of Chicken Pox you mentioned?". Or some reason you particularly know about the child's existence - "how are you managing being a new parent?", "how was your holiday to familyparkworldland, did you all enjoy it?" – TessellatingHeckler Aug 12 '16 at 19:38
  • What is the status of your offspring? – Mr. Shiny and New 安宇 Aug 12 '16 at 19:45
  • Questions like this are off-topic here, but if you're interested then you should join the Interpersonal Skills site proposal – curiousdannii Aug 13 '16 at 7:24

I ask this way: "How is your little angel?"

  • And then when the gender pronoun pops up, i.e., "She's fine" or "He's doing great", make a mental note or a note on your smart phone so you'll remember next time! ;-) – Kristina Lopez Aug 12 '16 at 18:34
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    This is a great answer for a young child, but might sound sarcastic for a 17 year old Goth. – James Aug 12 '16 at 18:41
  • Alternative: "How is your little devil?" – gnasher729 Aug 12 '16 at 20:47

"How's the little one doing?"
("Little one" is a common term for the baby).
"Kid" or the less formal "kiddo" are also often used, especially as the child grows older, even into college age; it's not clear why you think that's so awkward.

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